Psychologists investigated whether happy and unhappy people differed because of the types of conversations they engaged in.
Volunteers wore an unobtrusive recording device to monitor conversations with friends and colleagues for four days.
Researchers then listened to the recordings and identified them as trivial small talk or substantive discussions.
In addition, the volunteers completed personality and wellbeing assessments.
Reporting the findings in the journal Psychological Science, the researchers said the recordings revealed some startling findings.
Greater wellbeing was related to spending less time alone and more time talking to others. The happiest participants spent 25 per cent less time alone and 70 per cent more time talking than the unhappiest.
But the researchers were surprised to discover that the type of conversations people took part in also affected their happiness levels.
The happiest participants had twice as many deep and meaningful conversations and one third as much small talk as the unhappiest.
Matthias Mehl, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, said: "These findings suggest that the happy life is social and conversationally deep rather than solitary and superficial."
The researchers conclude that profound conversations may have the potential to make people happier.
They said: "Just as self-disclosure can instill a sense of intimacy in a relationship, deep conversations may instill a sense of meaning in interaction with partners."
Showing posts with label Philosophy and Mysticism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Philosophy and Mysticism. Show all posts
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
How will it change your life?
Let say:
...that this world will never have electricity as a source of energy again.
What do you do? How will be affect your life?
Are you one of the few people in world whose life will not be affected by such a phenomenon at all?
...that this world will never have electricity as a source of energy again.
What do you do? How will be affect your life?
Are you one of the few people in world whose life will not be affected by such a phenomenon at all?
Changing Your Subconscious Mind
There are a number of ways you can reprogram your subconscious mind but there are also many things in everyday society that make the process of changing your subconscious mind much more difficult that would ideally be best to avoid or at least attempt to avoid.
One of the fastest ways to change you subconscious mind is to get a grip on your emotions or your emotional state. If you are an overly emotional person this is both good and bad. It is most definitely good in cases where you are a very happy and positive person as your upbeat emotional state keeps sending positive energy out into the universe and the cycle of this continues to bring you more positive energy back into your everyday life. If you are usually quite negative or pessimistic the same negative energy you send out continues to return to you and the cycle continues.
Changing your subconscious mind from negative to positive would be best addressed by taking a look at what makes your emotions lean towards the negative. Let us take a look at the classic example of someone who is always emotionally negative due to a lack of money. Your subconscious mind in most cases believes you have no money and money is very difficult for you to come by. It is the belief in having no money that keeps you in that state of having no money. The process of changing your inner mind in this case would mean changing the negative belief you have about money.
So how do we change your subconscious mind to have a new positive belief about money? Well the process of changing your subconscious mind is quite simple but in reality we all know this process certainly does not appear to be simple since so many people are poor but would like to be rich. Everyone might like to be rich but unfortunately not everyone is prepared to do what is necessary to change the subconscious mind.
One of the first things you need to do in relation to changing your subconscious mind is to take a close look at the chatter or self talk that goes on in the back of your mind all day long. I have read that scientists believe the average person has around 50,000 thoughts per day, now that is a lot. Of course in all these thoughts we are going to be thinking about many, many things in the course of a day from what we are going to eat, where we are going, who we will see, what we will say, we will think about our relationships with others, we will also think about money and think about numerous other things as well.
If you constantly think about a lack of money and your self talk enforces that negative subconscious belief you need to look at what caused you to think negatively about money if you ever plan on changing your subconscious mind. Did your parents or other people tell you that you will never have money? Do you believe that you are not worthy of money or only lucky people have a lot of money. No matter what the reasons are it does not really matter, what does matter is that you understand that the one and only reason why you do not have money is because you believe you do not have money. By changing your subconscious mind and your belief about money within your subconscious mind to that of having money and believing money comes to you easily instead of the opposite, you will have money. The same thing goes for changing your subconscious mind about enjoying a great relationship or feeling healthy or anything else. Once you change the subconscious belief you change your life.
Although affirmations and the repetitions of affirmations works incredibly well with changing your subconscious mind, most people I have personally spoken to about this tell me honestly that usually they do not commit to their affirmations and therefore they get mixed results. With commitment to any endeavor you pursue within your life you will get a more positive result and the same thing goes for changing your subconscious mind.
Visualization is another super effective way to change your subconscious mind and the more you get into the habit of using the visualization technique the clearer you will be able to see the images and the faster you will get results. Creative visualization and positive affirmations work very well together but you need to keep at it, if you quit after a week or so I would not even bother to start in the first place since you will only frustrate your self. Why not try just 3 minutes of creative visualization with a positive affirmation 3 times a day just to get started and commit to this for at least one month. This really helped me in changing my subconscious mind and now I enjoy doing it. I still get a buzz when I begin to notice changes in my life as the visualizations in my subconscious mind start to appear in my reality.
Another way that really helps with changing your subconscious mind is to turn off the tv. Yes I am serious, turn off the TV and especially the news programs. I cannot stress this enough. Every time you watch a news program or look at the newspaper or even listen to the news programs on the radio you are submersing your subconscious mind in a pool of negativity, hatred, despair, war, violence, crime, pain and poverty. You may well be addicted to all the negativity I just mentioned but not even be aware of it. The news media makes a lot of money out of all the negativity in the world and most people feed on this garbage everyday for their entire lives. No wonder so many people live in poverty and there is so much hatred, crime and war in this world. We see it, we believe it and the more we believe it the more it continues.
While you continue to watch the TV and absorb all the negative statistics you end up becoming one yourself. You may not be aware of it but your subconscious mind is feeding on everything it sees and hears from the moment you are born to the moment you die and perhaps after you are dead but I really do not know about that. If you feed it thoughts of worldwide unhappiness and pain you will become a statistic of that world of pain.
The best thing you can do in regards changing your subconscious mind is to feed it positive energy by thinking positive thoughts about literally anything that is positive. Feed it feelings of love not feelings of hate towards your neighbor or someone from your past that hurt your feelings.
Forget about the past, leave it in the past and move on to a brighter future with a fresh bunch of new thoughts and feelings. You can do this if you believe you can and turning off the TV is a step in the right direction.
Changing your subconscious mind has only been a problem for you and the rest of the planet because you have been misguided somewhere along the way. Abundance and a world full of happiness is yours for the taking when you believe it is right there in front of you. In fact once you change your subconscious mind you will begin to see things simply arrive in your life like magic. So stop being a statistic and start to become the magician you really are.
One of the fastest ways to change you subconscious mind is to get a grip on your emotions or your emotional state. If you are an overly emotional person this is both good and bad. It is most definitely good in cases where you are a very happy and positive person as your upbeat emotional state keeps sending positive energy out into the universe and the cycle of this continues to bring you more positive energy back into your everyday life. If you are usually quite negative or pessimistic the same negative energy you send out continues to return to you and the cycle continues.
Changing your subconscious mind from negative to positive would be best addressed by taking a look at what makes your emotions lean towards the negative. Let us take a look at the classic example of someone who is always emotionally negative due to a lack of money. Your subconscious mind in most cases believes you have no money and money is very difficult for you to come by. It is the belief in having no money that keeps you in that state of having no money. The process of changing your inner mind in this case would mean changing the negative belief you have about money.
So how do we change your subconscious mind to have a new positive belief about money? Well the process of changing your subconscious mind is quite simple but in reality we all know this process certainly does not appear to be simple since so many people are poor but would like to be rich. Everyone might like to be rich but unfortunately not everyone is prepared to do what is necessary to change the subconscious mind.
One of the first things you need to do in relation to changing your subconscious mind is to take a close look at the chatter or self talk that goes on in the back of your mind all day long. I have read that scientists believe the average person has around 50,000 thoughts per day, now that is a lot. Of course in all these thoughts we are going to be thinking about many, many things in the course of a day from what we are going to eat, where we are going, who we will see, what we will say, we will think about our relationships with others, we will also think about money and think about numerous other things as well.
If you constantly think about a lack of money and your self talk enforces that negative subconscious belief you need to look at what caused you to think negatively about money if you ever plan on changing your subconscious mind. Did your parents or other people tell you that you will never have money? Do you believe that you are not worthy of money or only lucky people have a lot of money. No matter what the reasons are it does not really matter, what does matter is that you understand that the one and only reason why you do not have money is because you believe you do not have money. By changing your subconscious mind and your belief about money within your subconscious mind to that of having money and believing money comes to you easily instead of the opposite, you will have money. The same thing goes for changing your subconscious mind about enjoying a great relationship or feeling healthy or anything else. Once you change the subconscious belief you change your life.
Although affirmations and the repetitions of affirmations works incredibly well with changing your subconscious mind, most people I have personally spoken to about this tell me honestly that usually they do not commit to their affirmations and therefore they get mixed results. With commitment to any endeavor you pursue within your life you will get a more positive result and the same thing goes for changing your subconscious mind.
Visualization is another super effective way to change your subconscious mind and the more you get into the habit of using the visualization technique the clearer you will be able to see the images and the faster you will get results. Creative visualization and positive affirmations work very well together but you need to keep at it, if you quit after a week or so I would not even bother to start in the first place since you will only frustrate your self. Why not try just 3 minutes of creative visualization with a positive affirmation 3 times a day just to get started and commit to this for at least one month. This really helped me in changing my subconscious mind and now I enjoy doing it. I still get a buzz when I begin to notice changes in my life as the visualizations in my subconscious mind start to appear in my reality.
Another way that really helps with changing your subconscious mind is to turn off the tv. Yes I am serious, turn off the TV and especially the news programs. I cannot stress this enough. Every time you watch a news program or look at the newspaper or even listen to the news programs on the radio you are submersing your subconscious mind in a pool of negativity, hatred, despair, war, violence, crime, pain and poverty. You may well be addicted to all the negativity I just mentioned but not even be aware of it. The news media makes a lot of money out of all the negativity in the world and most people feed on this garbage everyday for their entire lives. No wonder so many people live in poverty and there is so much hatred, crime and war in this world. We see it, we believe it and the more we believe it the more it continues.
While you continue to watch the TV and absorb all the negative statistics you end up becoming one yourself. You may not be aware of it but your subconscious mind is feeding on everything it sees and hears from the moment you are born to the moment you die and perhaps after you are dead but I really do not know about that. If you feed it thoughts of worldwide unhappiness and pain you will become a statistic of that world of pain.
The best thing you can do in regards changing your subconscious mind is to feed it positive energy by thinking positive thoughts about literally anything that is positive. Feed it feelings of love not feelings of hate towards your neighbor or someone from your past that hurt your feelings.
Forget about the past, leave it in the past and move on to a brighter future with a fresh bunch of new thoughts and feelings. You can do this if you believe you can and turning off the TV is a step in the right direction.
Changing your subconscious mind has only been a problem for you and the rest of the planet because you have been misguided somewhere along the way. Abundance and a world full of happiness is yours for the taking when you believe it is right there in front of you. In fact once you change your subconscious mind you will begin to see things simply arrive in your life like magic. So stop being a statistic and start to become the magician you really are.
Poison of a Materialistic Society
A man who doesn't have a stable job and money is neither beautiful nor intelligent. A man who has money is beautiful as well as intelligent.
A son who doesn't do a job and give money to his mother after one month is not a son. A son who earns and gives it to his mother is actually a son.
A husband who works 18 hours a day but can't give a handsome amount of money to his wife is not her husband despite of the fact that he works for 18 hours and tries his best. A husband who takes bribes and gives handsome money to his wife is a good husband.
A society built upon the ideology of Greed. And where people don't appreciate one's effort but the product which the other person is providing, no matter it is from legal ways or illegal ways, is a society I call a failed society full of Pimps.
A son who doesn't do a job and give money to his mother after one month is not a son. A son who earns and gives it to his mother is actually a son.
A husband who works 18 hours a day but can't give a handsome amount of money to his wife is not her husband despite of the fact that he works for 18 hours and tries his best. A husband who takes bribes and gives handsome money to his wife is a good husband.
A society built upon the ideology of Greed. And where people don't appreciate one's effort but the product which the other person is providing, no matter it is from legal ways or illegal ways, is a society I call a failed society full of Pimps.
Power of Suggestion
With our first sense of understanding, ideas are presented to us, instilled into our minds as absolute facts.
We proceed from that basis, and however long it is followed, no true understanding or conclusion can be reached.
What do we know of the truth or falsity of these ideas when presented to us in childhood? Nothing whatsoever. They are merely suggestions passed on to us in childhood and they become a part of us and who we are and how we evolve.
Similarly later in life when one can exercise free will one can still be influenced by mere power of suggestion.
So are we merely puppets in the hands of those who exercise the power to suggest ?
We proceed from that basis, and however long it is followed, no true understanding or conclusion can be reached.
What do we know of the truth or falsity of these ideas when presented to us in childhood? Nothing whatsoever. They are merely suggestions passed on to us in childhood and they become a part of us and who we are and how we evolve.
Similarly later in life when one can exercise free will one can still be influenced by mere power of suggestion.
So are we merely puppets in the hands of those who exercise the power to suggest ?
Monday, September 28, 2009
Start for yourself
Start for yourself
Face your greatest fears
And take the new step of faith
Because only who can see the invisible
Can do the impossible.
God opens a door before your eyes
It's up to you to find out
Help yourself and explore the things outside.
If only you could see the genuine smile
Through the eyes of an innocent child
That gives you different insight
Sometimes it's better to be like a child
They take the challenge of life
No matter what comes out
You will see them playing around.
If you want to cope-up with your grief,
You must help and start for yourself
Minimize your self-centeredness,
Maximize your faith and strength for living
Because, God, you are still alive!
There are more things to explore outside.
Even the air you breathed, the voice you've heard,
The things you've seen,
Are enough to analyze,
You are still fortunate to be alive!
You are blessed to take another day
To feel the sun's ray
Hey, didn't you know that you are nature's greatest miracle?
*** SMILE ***
Smile, it is the key that fits the lock of everybody's heart.
A smile happens in a flash, but its memory can last a lifetime
There are hundreds of languages in the world, but a smile speaks them all
Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy
A warm smile is the universal language of kindness
Smiling makes you feel better about yourself, even if you don't feel like it. And it always makes other people think better of you.
A smile is a light in the window of a face that signifies the heart is at home and waiting
Life is like a mirror, we get the best results when we smile at it
You are never fully dressed until you wear a smile
A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks
Beauty is power; a smile is its sword.
Keep smiling - it makes people wonder what you've been up to
Peace begins with a smile
Every tear has a smile behind it.
Keep a smile on your face and let your personality be your autograph
No matter how small, a SMILE on your face tells all
What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity
Smiles are unbreakable- -and mend broken hearts
Smiles are great investments: the more you collect, the better you feel
Be multilingual; smiles are the universal language
A laugh is a smile that bursts
A smile is just a frown upside-down
A smile is as nice to give, as it is to receive
Most smiles start with another smile...
Though Smile cannot erase our burden, but it sure does make us feel lighter...
Just smile pleaseeeeeeee
WHISPERS OF LOVE
WHISPERS OF LOVE
Love whispers in my ear,
"Better to be a prey than a hunter.
Make yourself my fool.
Stop trying to be the sun and become a speck!
Dwell at my Door and be homeless.
Don't pretend to be a candle, be a moth,
so you may taste the savor of Life
and know the power hidden in serving"
Mathnawi V,411-414
(translated by Kabir Helminsky)
Test of Three
In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom.
One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance, who ran up to him excitedly and said, 'Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students...?'
'Wait a moment,' Socrates replied. 'Before you tell me, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Test of Three.'
'Test of Three?'
'That's correct,' Socrates continued.
'Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to test what you're going to say.
The first test is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?'
'No,' the man replied, 'actually I just heard about it.'
'All right,' said Socrates. 'So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second test, the test of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?'
'No, on the contrary...'
'So,' Socrates continued, 'you want to tell me something bad about him even though you're not certain it's true?'
The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.
Socrates continued, 'You may still pass though because there is a third test - the filter of Usefulness.
Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?'
'No, not really...'
'Well,' concluded Socrates, 'if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful, why tell it to me at all?'
The man was defeated and ashamed and said no more.
This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem
One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance, who ran up to him excitedly and said, 'Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students...?'
'Wait a moment,' Socrates replied. 'Before you tell me, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Test of Three.'
'Test of Three?'
'That's correct,' Socrates continued.
'Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to test what you're going to say.
The first test is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?'
'No,' the man replied, 'actually I just heard about it.'
'All right,' said Socrates. 'So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second test, the test of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?'
'No, on the contrary...'
'So,' Socrates continued, 'you want to tell me something bad about him even though you're not certain it's true?'
The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.
Socrates continued, 'You may still pass though because there is a third test - the filter of Usefulness.
Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?'
'No, not really...'
'Well,' concluded Socrates, 'if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful, why tell it to me at all?'
The man was defeated and ashamed and said no more.
This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem
The Meaning of Love
The Meaning of Love - Rumi
Both light and shadow
are the dance of Love.
Love has no cause;
it is the astrolabe of God’s secrets.
Lover and Loving are inseparable
and timeless.
Although I may try to describe Love
when I experience it I am speechless.
Although I may try to write about Love
I am rendered helpless;
my pen breaks and the paper slips away
at the ineffable place
where Lover, Loving and Loved are one.
Every moment is made glorious
by the light of Love.
The Seed
The Seed
Author: Novoneel Chakraborty
Once upon a time, there was a seed and because it was only a seed, nobody cared to notice it. Thus, gripped by a sense of inferiority, the seed gave no importance to his existence.
Then one day, a wind picked him up - randomly or otherwise he didn't know - and threw him mercilessly on an open field under the sweltering sun. He was confused. Why would anything do such a thing? But instead of any copasetic answers, he was provided with rain (in addition to sunlight); sometimes in drizzles and sometimes in torrents.
Meanwhile time flew and years later he saw a traveler sitting by his side. "Thank you God for this. I really needed some rest," he heard the traveler say.
"What are you talking about?" The seed promptly asked. He thought the man was making fun of him. Sure, he had witnessed many people sitting by his side - more so in recent years - but no one ever spoke to him like that.
"Who is this?" The man was startled.
"This is me. The seed."
"The seed?" The man looked at the giant tree. "Are you kidding me? You are no seed. You are a tree. A goliath of a tree!"
"Really?"
"Yes! Why else do you think people come here?"
"What do they come here for anyways?"
"To feel your shade! Don't tell me you didn't know you had grown over time."
A moment passed before the traveler's words struck the chord of realization within him.
The seed, now a prolix tree, thought and smiled for the first time in his life. The years of relentless tortures by the sun and the rain finally made sense to him.
"Oh! That means I'm not a tiny-flimsy seed anymore! I wasn't destined to die unnoticed but was actually born to strip people of their lassitude. Wow! Now that's a life worth a thousand gems!"
Author: Novoneel Chakraborty
Once upon a time, there was a seed and because it was only a seed, nobody cared to notice it. Thus, gripped by a sense of inferiority, the seed gave no importance to his existence.
Then one day, a wind picked him up - randomly or otherwise he didn't know - and threw him mercilessly on an open field under the sweltering sun. He was confused. Why would anything do such a thing? But instead of any copasetic answers, he was provided with rain (in addition to sunlight); sometimes in drizzles and sometimes in torrents.
Meanwhile time flew and years later he saw a traveler sitting by his side. "Thank you God for this. I really needed some rest," he heard the traveler say.
"What are you talking about?" The seed promptly asked. He thought the man was making fun of him. Sure, he had witnessed many people sitting by his side - more so in recent years - but no one ever spoke to him like that.
"Who is this?" The man was startled.
"This is me. The seed."
"The seed?" The man looked at the giant tree. "Are you kidding me? You are no seed. You are a tree. A goliath of a tree!"
"Really?"
"Yes! Why else do you think people come here?"
"What do they come here for anyways?"
"To feel your shade! Don't tell me you didn't know you had grown over time."
A moment passed before the traveler's words struck the chord of realization within him.
The seed, now a prolix tree, thought and smiled for the first time in his life. The years of relentless tortures by the sun and the rain finally made sense to him.
"Oh! That means I'm not a tiny-flimsy seed anymore! I wasn't destined to die unnoticed but was actually born to strip people of their lassitude. Wow! Now that's a life worth a thousand gems!"
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