Showing posts with label Useful Tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Useful Tips. Show all posts
Monday, January 2, 2012
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Effects Of Cold Water On Human Body
For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this "sludge" reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal.
A serious note about heart attacks - You should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting. Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line.
You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack. Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms. 60% of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let's be careful and be aware. The more we know the better chance we could survive.
A cardiologist says if everyone who reads this message sends it to 10 people, you can be sure that we'll save at least one life. Read this & Send the link to a friend. It could save a life. So, please be a true friend and send this article to all your friends you care about.
10 (More) Reasons You're Not Rich
Many people assume they aren't rich because they don't earn enough money. If I only earned a little more, I could save and invest better, they say.
The problem with that theory is they were probably making exactly the same argument before their last several raises. Becoming a millionaire has less to do with how much you make, it's how you treat money in your daily life.
The list of reasons you may not be rich doesn't end at 10. Caring what your neighbors think, not being patient, having bad habits, not having goals, not being prepared, trying to make a quick buck, relying on others to handle your money, investing in things you don't understand, being financially afraid and ignoring your finances.
Here are 10 more possible reasons you aren't rich:
You care what your car looks like: A car is a means of transportation to get from one place to another, but many people don't view it that way. Instead, they consider it a reflection of themselves and spend money every two years or so to impress others instead of driving the car for its entire useful life and investing the money saved.
You feel entitlement: If you believe you deserve to live a certain lifestyle, have certain things and spend a certain amount before you have earned to live that way, you will have to borrow money. That large chunk of debt will keep you from building wealth.
You lack diversification: There is a reason one of the oldest pieces of financial advice is to not keep all your eggs in a single basket. Having a diversified investment portfolio makes it much less likely that wealth will suddenly disappear.
You started too late: The magic of compound interest works best over long periods of time. If you find you're always saying there will be time to save and invest in a couple more years, you'll wake up one day to find retirement is just around the corner and there is still nothing in your retirement account.
You don't do what you enjoy: While your job doesn't necessarily need to be your dream job, you need to enjoy it. If you choose a job you don't like just for the money, you'll likely spend all that extra cash trying to relieve the stress of doing work you hate.
You don't like to learn: You may have assumed that once you graduated from college, there was no need to study or learn. That attitude might be enough to get you your first job or keep you employed, but it will never make you rich. A willingness to learn to improve your career and finances are essential if you want to eventually become wealthy.
You buy things you don't use: Take a look around your house, in the closets, basement, attic and garage and see if there are a lot of things you haven't used in the past year. If there are, chances are that all those things you purchased were wasted money that could have been used to increase your net worth.
You don't understand value: You buy things for any number of reasons besides the value that the purchase brings to you. This is not limited to those who feel the need to buy the most expensive items, but can also apply to those who always purchase the cheapest goods. Rarely are either the best value, and it's only when you learn to purchase good value that you have money left over to invest for your future.
Your house is too big: When you buy a house that is bigger than you can afford or need, you end up spending extra money on longer debt payments, increased taxes, higher upkeep and more things to fill it. Some people will try to argue that the increased value of the house makes it a good investment, but the truth is that unless you are willing to downgrade your living standards, which most people are not, it will never be a liquid asset or money that you can ever use and enjoy.
You fail to take advantage of opportunities: There has probably been more than one occasion where you heard about someone who has made it big and thought to yourself, "I could have thought of that." There are plenty of opportunities if you have the will and determination to keep your eyes open.
TIME GETS BETTER WITH AGE
I've learned that I like my teacher because she cries when we
sings "Silent Night".
Age 5
I've learned that our dog doesn't want to eat my broccoli
either.
Age 7
I've learned that when I wave to people in the country, they
stop what they are doing and wave back.
Age 9
I've learned that just when I get my room the way I like it,
Mom makes me clean it up again.
Age 12
I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should
try cheering someone else up.
Age 14
I've learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly
glad my parents are strict with me.
Age 15
I've learned that silent company is often more healing than
words of advice.
Age 24
I've learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's
great pleasures.
Age 26
I've learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers
have followed me there.
Age 29
I've learned that if someone says something unkind about me,
I must live so that no one will believe it.
Age 30
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but
just don't know how to show it.
Age 42
I've learned that you can make some one's day by simply
sending them a little note.
Age 44
I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the
greater his or her need to cast blame on others.
Age 46
I've learned that children and grandparents are natural allies.
Age 47
I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems
today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
Age 48
I've learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits
for hours.
Age 49
I've learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away
from the phone.
Age 50
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he
handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and
tangled Christmas tree lights.
Age 51
I've learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a
medicine cabinet full of pills.
Age 52
I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your
parents, you miss them terribly after they die.
Age 53
I've learned that making a living is not the same thing as
making a life.
Age 58
I've learned that if you want to do something positive for
your children, work to improve your marriage.
Age 61
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
Age 62
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catchers
mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.
Age 64
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you.
But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your
work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can,
happiness will find you.
Age 65
I've learned that whenever I decide something with kindness,
I usually make the right decision.
Age 66
I've learned that everyone can use a prayer.
Age 72
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be
one.
Age 82
I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch
someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm
hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
Age 90
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
Age 92
sings "Silent Night".
Age 5
I've learned that our dog doesn't want to eat my broccoli
either.
Age 7
I've learned that when I wave to people in the country, they
stop what they are doing and wave back.
Age 9
I've learned that just when I get my room the way I like it,
Mom makes me clean it up again.
Age 12
I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should
try cheering someone else up.
Age 14
I've learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly
glad my parents are strict with me.
Age 15
I've learned that silent company is often more healing than
words of advice.
Age 24
I've learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's
great pleasures.
Age 26
I've learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers
have followed me there.
Age 29
I've learned that if someone says something unkind about me,
I must live so that no one will believe it.
Age 30
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but
just don't know how to show it.
Age 42
I've learned that you can make some one's day by simply
sending them a little note.
Age 44
I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the
greater his or her need to cast blame on others.
Age 46
I've learned that children and grandparents are natural allies.
Age 47
I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems
today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
Age 48
I've learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits
for hours.
Age 49
I've learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away
from the phone.
Age 50
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he
handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and
tangled Christmas tree lights.
Age 51
I've learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a
medicine cabinet full of pills.
Age 52
I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your
parents, you miss them terribly after they die.
Age 53
I've learned that making a living is not the same thing as
making a life.
Age 58
I've learned that if you want to do something positive for
your children, work to improve your marriage.
Age 61
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
Age 62
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catchers
mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.
Age 64
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you.
But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your
work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can,
happiness will find you.
Age 65
I've learned that whenever I decide something with kindness,
I usually make the right decision.
Age 66
I've learned that everyone can use a prayer.
Age 72
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be
one.
Age 82
I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch
someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm
hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
Age 90
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
Age 92
Genius IQ in Law Of Reflection
Genius IQ today let you all know about Law of reflection. The Law Of Reflection states that whatever you do, think or feel will be reflected back to you. The reflection is of greater quantity, focus and power. It is a law which is not apparent to most people and so they continue to experience problems in their life, so it is necessary to clarify the principles of this law so that you can complement and respect it to further your goals.
1. You should always speak, act and do things in the way that you would ideally want the world and your life to be. For example, if someone were to speak ill of you, you should ignore it completely and speak highly of them. They will then, almost miraculously end up speaking highly of you too.
2. You should be mindful of the fact that everything you do, think or feel will have a physical effect. No matter how small it may be, the cumulative effect over a period of time can be quite large. For example, if i continued to collect 1 cents coins, i would eventually have a dollar and this same principle applies in this case too, in that small changes will eventually make a big difference.
3. We should valid lengthen to make steps to improve ourselves. This will mean the world will always persist to improve for us..
What To Expect From The Law Of Reflection
A. People will become a reflection of what we want them to be, from the way we speak to them. They will speak highly of us, if we do that to them.
B. Increased clarity and focus in our lives if we give ourselves focus. When we know that what we do will be reflected back on us with greater power, we will continue to remain focused to help ourselves.
C. Increased insight into lifes situations. It no longer becomes a mystery why the same situation continues to crop up time and again. We are creating it from what we are giving out.
1. You should always speak, act and do things in the way that you would ideally want the world and your life to be. For example, if someone were to speak ill of you, you should ignore it completely and speak highly of them. They will then, almost miraculously end up speaking highly of you too.
2. You should be mindful of the fact that everything you do, think or feel will have a physical effect. No matter how small it may be, the cumulative effect over a period of time can be quite large. For example, if i continued to collect 1 cents coins, i would eventually have a dollar and this same principle applies in this case too, in that small changes will eventually make a big difference.
3. We should valid lengthen to make steps to improve ourselves. This will mean the world will always persist to improve for us..
What To Expect From The Law Of Reflection
A. People will become a reflection of what we want them to be, from the way we speak to them. They will speak highly of us, if we do that to them.
B. Increased clarity and focus in our lives if we give ourselves focus. When we know that what we do will be reflected back on us with greater power, we will continue to remain focused to help ourselves.
C. Increased insight into lifes situations. It no longer becomes a mystery why the same situation continues to crop up time and again. We are creating it from what we are giving out.
Simple Tips on How to Motivate Yourself
Figuring out how to motivate yourself can be hard. There is always that little voice that says, ?you can?t do it? no matter if you are trying to find the motivation to lose weight, save money, spend more time with the kids, or any other goal. Everyone deals with this little voice; you are not alone. The key is to learn how to motivate yourself in the most effective ways. Here are some tips to help you figure out just what is the best way to motivate yourself.
Shut Out the Voice
One important way how to motivate yourself and to stay that way is to start shutting out that negative little voice in the back of your head. You can do this by simply combating it with positive voices. For example, if you are trying to lose weight and the voice is saying stuff like, ?You?ll never be able to resist the cake at the birthday party,? combat it by telling yourself: ?Even if I do eat a piece of cake that doesn?t mean I have to give up. I?ve done really well so far and I?m going to keep at it!?
Bribe Yourself
Sometimes you have to feed the child inside of you to stay motivated. Just like when motivating a child to do something by promising a treat, you can do the same to reach your own goals. This is How to Motivate Yourself 101. For example, if you did bypass the cake at the birthday party you could reward yourself by indulging in a new pair of shoes. This is called positive reinforcement, and it really does work. If you do challenge yourself and then get positive results when you complete the task then you will keep challenging yourself.
Here?s how it works. The next time you find your motivation for a task or goal failing, tell yourself that you will get a reward after it is done. This reward can be as simple as taking your dog for a walk in the park, or something as lavish as a trip to the day spa to get a massage. Whatever the treat, make sure that it is one that gives you that extra boost to finish the task.
Get Others to Help
One of the biggest motivators of all is pride. If you tell others about your goal then you are bound by your pride to finish it. So, next time you have an important task to complete tell everyone. The every need not to fall on your face in front of others is the perfect way how to motivate yourself.
Shut Out the Voice
One important way how to motivate yourself and to stay that way is to start shutting out that negative little voice in the back of your head. You can do this by simply combating it with positive voices. For example, if you are trying to lose weight and the voice is saying stuff like, ?You?ll never be able to resist the cake at the birthday party,? combat it by telling yourself: ?Even if I do eat a piece of cake that doesn?t mean I have to give up. I?ve done really well so far and I?m going to keep at it!?
Bribe Yourself
Sometimes you have to feed the child inside of you to stay motivated. Just like when motivating a child to do something by promising a treat, you can do the same to reach your own goals. This is How to Motivate Yourself 101. For example, if you did bypass the cake at the birthday party you could reward yourself by indulging in a new pair of shoes. This is called positive reinforcement, and it really does work. If you do challenge yourself and then get positive results when you complete the task then you will keep challenging yourself.
Here?s how it works. The next time you find your motivation for a task or goal failing, tell yourself that you will get a reward after it is done. This reward can be as simple as taking your dog for a walk in the park, or something as lavish as a trip to the day spa to get a massage. Whatever the treat, make sure that it is one that gives you that extra boost to finish the task.
Get Others to Help
One of the biggest motivators of all is pride. If you tell others about your goal then you are bound by your pride to finish it. So, next time you have an important task to complete tell everyone. The every need not to fall on your face in front of others is the perfect way how to motivate yourself.
What To Do When You Catch Your Boyfriend Or Girlfriend Cheating
Are you in a serious romantic relationship? If you are, is your relationship defined as being boyfriend and girlfriend? If it is, you may still be curious about cheating. Despite the fact that you may not be married, it doesn?t mean that a cheating partner will not hurt.
If you catch your boyfriend or girlfriend cheating, you may be curious as to what you should do. After all, a quick internet search online will mostly produce results for married couples. As a reminder, just because you are not married, it doesn?t have to mean that you have to put up with a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you learn that you boyfriend or girlfriend has been cheating, the first thing that you will want to do is take a step back. You will want to fully think the situation through. Catching a cheating spouse often results in impulsive actions. It is expected, but it can be harmful. As for what you should do when you do learn about the cheating, please continue reading on.
If you actually catch your boyfriend or girlfriend in the act, like if you see them having sex, leave the room. In fact, you should do so immediately. Verifying an affair is one thing, but staying the room, even just to argue, is not advised. Vacate the premise immediately, unless of course it is your own home. This gives you time to think about what you saw and what your actions should be, without having to see half naked bodies sitting in front of you.
Be sure to think about what you saw or what you learned. If you are seriously considering ending your relationship, do not decide right away. Instead, ask your boyfriend or girlfriend for a little bit of time apart. This is ideal if you do not live together. If you do live together, ask that your cheating partner stays with friends or family members. At the very least, have them sleep in another room.
Another action that you can take is to breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend. As previously stated, you may not want to do this right away, especially if you are in a long-term relationship. With that in mind, be sure to remember that many men and women who cheat often do so again and again. Do you really want to always be wondering if your boyfriend or girlfriend is where they say they are?
If you are interested in trying to save your relationship, you should recommend counseling to your cheating partner. Although counseling is often associated with marriage, couples counseling is also available and can be helpful as well. Your chances of saving your relationship are better if you are older, as opposed to being a teenager, or you have been in a long-term relationship. For many, long-term relationships are worth saving.
As for what you will never want to do, never resort to violence. When placed in situations, such as a finding a cheating spouse, both men and women have the ability to become violent. This violence may be physical, verbal, or a combination of them both. Whatever you do, do not resort to violence, as it often makes the situation much worse than it needs to be.
As you can see, there are a number of different ways that you can go about dealing with a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend. Whichever approach you do take, just be sure to follow your heart, but use your best judgment at the same time.
If you catch your boyfriend or girlfriend cheating, you may be curious as to what you should do. After all, a quick internet search online will mostly produce results for married couples. As a reminder, just because you are not married, it doesn?t have to mean that you have to put up with a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you learn that you boyfriend or girlfriend has been cheating, the first thing that you will want to do is take a step back. You will want to fully think the situation through. Catching a cheating spouse often results in impulsive actions. It is expected, but it can be harmful. As for what you should do when you do learn about the cheating, please continue reading on.
If you actually catch your boyfriend or girlfriend in the act, like if you see them having sex, leave the room. In fact, you should do so immediately. Verifying an affair is one thing, but staying the room, even just to argue, is not advised. Vacate the premise immediately, unless of course it is your own home. This gives you time to think about what you saw and what your actions should be, without having to see half naked bodies sitting in front of you.
Be sure to think about what you saw or what you learned. If you are seriously considering ending your relationship, do not decide right away. Instead, ask your boyfriend or girlfriend for a little bit of time apart. This is ideal if you do not live together. If you do live together, ask that your cheating partner stays with friends or family members. At the very least, have them sleep in another room.
Another action that you can take is to breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend. As previously stated, you may not want to do this right away, especially if you are in a long-term relationship. With that in mind, be sure to remember that many men and women who cheat often do so again and again. Do you really want to always be wondering if your boyfriend or girlfriend is where they say they are?
If you are interested in trying to save your relationship, you should recommend counseling to your cheating partner. Although counseling is often associated with marriage, couples counseling is also available and can be helpful as well. Your chances of saving your relationship are better if you are older, as opposed to being a teenager, or you have been in a long-term relationship. For many, long-term relationships are worth saving.
As for what you will never want to do, never resort to violence. When placed in situations, such as a finding a cheating spouse, both men and women have the ability to become violent. This violence may be physical, verbal, or a combination of them both. Whatever you do, do not resort to violence, as it often makes the situation much worse than it needs to be.
As you can see, there are a number of different ways that you can go about dealing with a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend. Whichever approach you do take, just be sure to follow your heart, but use your best judgment at the same time.
Instant Success
People say there is no such thing as instant success, but I say that there is. Success is a way of thinking. Success has to do with how you feel. You may have a lot of money, but if your thoughts and emotions have you in a terrible state, then you really aren?t successful. Why do people achieve goals? Why do entrepreneurs start businesses? They do it because they believe it will make them feel a certain way. They will feel accomplished, victorious, joyful, or free.
Success is in the mind. People tell themselves that they will feel successful when they get the money, obtain the right job, find their perfect mate, or lose the weight. Success is a someday thing in this context. Someday never comes.
Success is a gift you give to yourself. It is a way of thinking. Success thinking creates the emotions of success including joy, peace, personal pride, self respect, freedom, and gratitude.
If you do not see or feel yourself as successful right now, you are but a thought away from it. Success is one thought away from where you are right now. The distance between your current thoughts and success thoughts may seem overwhelming. This is due to your physiology. You see, constant repetition of negative thoughts (blaming, complaining, victimized, anger, etc.) trains your body to react in certain ways. Physiologically, you are wired to feel the way that you do. Constant practice of negativity and doubt build those emotions into your body. Your physiological responses can be changed.
Since we are often battling physiology when we attempt to make changes, it is the body we must employ as our change agent.
Here are some steps you can use to create success:
1. First, there must be an intention to succeed. Failure and giving up have payoffs we must be willing to give up. We must be willing to take responsibility for our own lives. When we intend to create success we recognize that our success, past, present, or future, is not up to anyone else. No one can stop you from being successful.
2. Following up on your intention, there must be a decision you make to succeed. You make this decision every day. Every time you experience disappointment or setbacks, you decide again to succeed.
3. You must envision success. It is important to write out a vision that includes what your life would look like. More importantly, you need a vision that articulates what kind of person you want to be. Words like confident, loving, compassionate, forgiving, helpful, competent, joyful, tenacious, graceful, grateful and others come to mind. In this vision of your success, who are you being?
4. Focus on the feelings that you believe are part of being successful. If you were successful right now?if you felt totally successful right now?how would you be sitting in your chair? What would your posture be like? How would you carry yourself? Get up out of your seat and walk across the room. How would you walk? Go greet someone or talk to someone on the telephone. How would you greet and talk to someone if you were successful?
5. Consciously bring the feelings and thoughts of success into every part of your body in each of the parts of your life. In other words, you are not looking for success?you are being success.
Some may say that that?s nice, but it is play acting. It is like living in a dream world. This is true. You are acting and it is living in your dream world. Success comes from the inside out. In order to create your successful world you must first live in it in your mind.
So, if you want a promotion, how would you walk and talk if you were already in that position? How would you deal with people? How would you approach your work? If you were a great leader with big responsibility and compensation to match, would you be tracking how many hours you work each week? Would you be gossiping about your coworker? Or, would you be fully engaged in the moment, making decisions that benefit the highest good for the organization? Would you be complaining about how unfair certain people or situations are, or would you be envisioning positive situations and taking constructive steps to create them?
Someone said to me: ?I can play at being successful but I?m really not. I still don?t have the money I need. I still don?t have the influence I need. I don?t have time for games like these.? This reaction is common and understandable. My first question is: ?How much money, influence and love have you gained by worry or by feeling sorry for yourself?? Generally speaking, other people are not going to help you be successful because they feel sorry for you. People gravitate toward success. Whether you want others to buy from you, vote for you, listen to you, or join with you, they are going to be more interested if you are successful. If you see yourself and feel yourself as successful, others will agree with you. Motivational writers and speakers call it: ?Fake it until you make it.?
Personally I don?t think we are faking it at all. That confident and joyful person we envision is who we really are. As we set aside the negative thoughts and emotions of blaming, complaining, resentment, and general unforgiveness we expose who we really are. You are already a success. If you can imagine it and feel it, you can be it.
Give yourself the gift of instant success right now. Sit, stand or somehow begin moving as if you are already successful. Practice will build the positive emotions of success into your physiology. Your body will become wired for success. It will truly be the servant of a success oriented mind. As you move forward in confidence your outer conditions will begin to change to reflect your inner success.
By William Frank Diedrich
Success is in the mind. People tell themselves that they will feel successful when they get the money, obtain the right job, find their perfect mate, or lose the weight. Success is a someday thing in this context. Someday never comes.
Success is a gift you give to yourself. It is a way of thinking. Success thinking creates the emotions of success including joy, peace, personal pride, self respect, freedom, and gratitude.
If you do not see or feel yourself as successful right now, you are but a thought away from it. Success is one thought away from where you are right now. The distance between your current thoughts and success thoughts may seem overwhelming. This is due to your physiology. You see, constant repetition of negative thoughts (blaming, complaining, victimized, anger, etc.) trains your body to react in certain ways. Physiologically, you are wired to feel the way that you do. Constant practice of negativity and doubt build those emotions into your body. Your physiological responses can be changed.
Since we are often battling physiology when we attempt to make changes, it is the body we must employ as our change agent.
Here are some steps you can use to create success:
1. First, there must be an intention to succeed. Failure and giving up have payoffs we must be willing to give up. We must be willing to take responsibility for our own lives. When we intend to create success we recognize that our success, past, present, or future, is not up to anyone else. No one can stop you from being successful.
2. Following up on your intention, there must be a decision you make to succeed. You make this decision every day. Every time you experience disappointment or setbacks, you decide again to succeed.
3. You must envision success. It is important to write out a vision that includes what your life would look like. More importantly, you need a vision that articulates what kind of person you want to be. Words like confident, loving, compassionate, forgiving, helpful, competent, joyful, tenacious, graceful, grateful and others come to mind. In this vision of your success, who are you being?
4. Focus on the feelings that you believe are part of being successful. If you were successful right now?if you felt totally successful right now?how would you be sitting in your chair? What would your posture be like? How would you carry yourself? Get up out of your seat and walk across the room. How would you walk? Go greet someone or talk to someone on the telephone. How would you greet and talk to someone if you were successful?
5. Consciously bring the feelings and thoughts of success into every part of your body in each of the parts of your life. In other words, you are not looking for success?you are being success.
Some may say that that?s nice, but it is play acting. It is like living in a dream world. This is true. You are acting and it is living in your dream world. Success comes from the inside out. In order to create your successful world you must first live in it in your mind.
So, if you want a promotion, how would you walk and talk if you were already in that position? How would you deal with people? How would you approach your work? If you were a great leader with big responsibility and compensation to match, would you be tracking how many hours you work each week? Would you be gossiping about your coworker? Or, would you be fully engaged in the moment, making decisions that benefit the highest good for the organization? Would you be complaining about how unfair certain people or situations are, or would you be envisioning positive situations and taking constructive steps to create them?
Someone said to me: ?I can play at being successful but I?m really not. I still don?t have the money I need. I still don?t have the influence I need. I don?t have time for games like these.? This reaction is common and understandable. My first question is: ?How much money, influence and love have you gained by worry or by feeling sorry for yourself?? Generally speaking, other people are not going to help you be successful because they feel sorry for you. People gravitate toward success. Whether you want others to buy from you, vote for you, listen to you, or join with you, they are going to be more interested if you are successful. If you see yourself and feel yourself as successful, others will agree with you. Motivational writers and speakers call it: ?Fake it until you make it.?
Personally I don?t think we are faking it at all. That confident and joyful person we envision is who we really are. As we set aside the negative thoughts and emotions of blaming, complaining, resentment, and general unforgiveness we expose who we really are. You are already a success. If you can imagine it and feel it, you can be it.
Give yourself the gift of instant success right now. Sit, stand or somehow begin moving as if you are already successful. Practice will build the positive emotions of success into your physiology. Your body will become wired for success. It will truly be the servant of a success oriented mind. As you move forward in confidence your outer conditions will begin to change to reflect your inner success.
By William Frank Diedrich
Putting Your Child Up For Adoption
Even considering putting your child up for adoption can be
one of the most difficult things a parent will ever have to
do in their lives.
The decision, however, is a gesture of love because you
know you are doing what is the best for that child and
their future.
There are many ways to put your child up for adoption and
also many different reasons this might be a good option or
the only option.
Sometimes, a parent or parents might know from the start
that adoption is the best way to go. This can be due to
many different factors.
The parent or parents might be very young, they might know
they can?t handle a child due to emotional or mental
issues, or they might not be able to support a child
financially.
All of these or a combination of them can lead to a
decision to put a child up for adoption.
There are a couple common types of adoption available if
you are in this situation.
There is the closed adoption where you give your child to
an agency that later places the child. This type doesn?t
allow you to give any input whatsoever. The agency will
make the choice they feel is best.
Open adoption might allow you to choose who the adopted
parents will be and have visits or other contact available
throughout the years.
Before you decide what type of adoption is the best for
you, it?s always a good idea to consult an adoption
attorney.
Each country and state have different laws regarding
adoption and it?s a good idea to get familiar with them
before you do anything at all.
one of the most difficult things a parent will ever have to
do in their lives.
The decision, however, is a gesture of love because you
know you are doing what is the best for that child and
their future.
There are many ways to put your child up for adoption and
also many different reasons this might be a good option or
the only option.
Sometimes, a parent or parents might know from the start
that adoption is the best way to go. This can be due to
many different factors.
The parent or parents might be very young, they might know
they can?t handle a child due to emotional or mental
issues, or they might not be able to support a child
financially.
All of these or a combination of them can lead to a
decision to put a child up for adoption.
There are a couple common types of adoption available if
you are in this situation.
There is the closed adoption where you give your child to
an agency that later places the child. This type doesn?t
allow you to give any input whatsoever. The agency will
make the choice they feel is best.
Open adoption might allow you to choose who the adopted
parents will be and have visits or other contact available
throughout the years.
Before you decide what type of adoption is the best for
you, it?s always a good idea to consult an adoption
attorney.
Each country and state have different laws regarding
adoption and it?s a good idea to get familiar with them
before you do anything at all.
Five Signs Of A Cheating Boyfriend
Are you a teenager who is in a serious relationship? If you are, there may come a point in time when you think that your boyfriend is cheating on you. As often as you may hear an adult say ?you are young, you will find love again,? you may still want to have concrete proof that your boyfriend is cheating on you. After all, if love is what you feel, you may be unsure about ending the relationship.
Although getting concrete proof that shows that your boyfriend is cheating on you can be difficult to do, there are still a number of signs that you will want to look for. These signs, five of which are outlined below, can make it easier for you to determine whether or not your teenage boyfriend is cheating on you.
1 He Stops Hanging Out With You
If your boyfriend stops hanging out with you or if he stops inviting you to parties or social outings with friends, there is a good chance that he is cheating on you. As for why you may no longer be invited to social events with him, he is likely worried that his friends will talk. Because, chances are his close friends already know that he is cheating on you. In fact, do his friends treat you any differently?
2 He Has Changed His Appearance
Has your boyfriend starting changing his appearance? Has he started taking better care of himself? At the high school level, a big change in appearance should include hairstyles or clothes. Chances are if your boyfriend has undergone a sudden appearance change, there is someone who he is trying to impress. Unfortunately, you may not be that someone.
3 A Rude Attitude
Since many cheaters feel guilty about their actions, they often try to lessen that guilt. One of the many ways that a boyfriend does this is by being rude to you. He may accuse you of cheating on him or he may regularly find even the smallest reasons for picking an argument. This is because some cheaters justify their behavior by claiming that their girlfriends deserved to be cheated on.
4 You Can?t Get In Touch With Him
Many boyfriends and girlfriends communicate through cell phone calls, text messages, and emails. If this is how you and your boyfriend communicated in the past, have you suddenly noticed a change? If you find it harder to get hold of your boyfriend, he might be cheating on you. After all, why would he always answer your phone calls, text messages, or emails before, but not now?
5 You Are Hearing Rumors
If one thing is for sure it is that high school students like to gossip. As previously stated, your boyfriends? friends likely already know that he is cheating on you. They may talk to their other friends or their own girlfriends. This is likely to start rumors. Although not all rumors you hear at school are true, you may want to listen carefully.
The above mentioned signs are just a few of the many that your boyfriend may be cheating on you. If you do find out that your boyfriend is cheating on you, it may be a wise idea to break off the relationship. If you are having sex with your boyfriend, his cheating ways could put you at risk for developing harmful and painful sexually transmitted diseases.
Although getting concrete proof that shows that your boyfriend is cheating on you can be difficult to do, there are still a number of signs that you will want to look for. These signs, five of which are outlined below, can make it easier for you to determine whether or not your teenage boyfriend is cheating on you.
1 He Stops Hanging Out With You
If your boyfriend stops hanging out with you or if he stops inviting you to parties or social outings with friends, there is a good chance that he is cheating on you. As for why you may no longer be invited to social events with him, he is likely worried that his friends will talk. Because, chances are his close friends already know that he is cheating on you. In fact, do his friends treat you any differently?
2 He Has Changed His Appearance
Has your boyfriend starting changing his appearance? Has he started taking better care of himself? At the high school level, a big change in appearance should include hairstyles or clothes. Chances are if your boyfriend has undergone a sudden appearance change, there is someone who he is trying to impress. Unfortunately, you may not be that someone.
3 A Rude Attitude
Since many cheaters feel guilty about their actions, they often try to lessen that guilt. One of the many ways that a boyfriend does this is by being rude to you. He may accuse you of cheating on him or he may regularly find even the smallest reasons for picking an argument. This is because some cheaters justify their behavior by claiming that their girlfriends deserved to be cheated on.
4 You Can?t Get In Touch With Him
Many boyfriends and girlfriends communicate through cell phone calls, text messages, and emails. If this is how you and your boyfriend communicated in the past, have you suddenly noticed a change? If you find it harder to get hold of your boyfriend, he might be cheating on you. After all, why would he always answer your phone calls, text messages, or emails before, but not now?
5 You Are Hearing Rumors
If one thing is for sure it is that high school students like to gossip. As previously stated, your boyfriends? friends likely already know that he is cheating on you. They may talk to their other friends or their own girlfriends. This is likely to start rumors. Although not all rumors you hear at school are true, you may want to listen carefully.
The above mentioned signs are just a few of the many that your boyfriend may be cheating on you. If you do find out that your boyfriend is cheating on you, it may be a wise idea to break off the relationship. If you are having sex with your boyfriend, his cheating ways could put you at risk for developing harmful and painful sexually transmitted diseases.
21 Things To Remember
* No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission.
* Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be
* Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.
* Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.
* Success stops when you do.
* When your ship comes in.... make sure you are willing to unload it.
* You will never have it all together.
* Life is a journey...not a destination. Enjoy the trip!
* The biggest lie on the planet When I get what I want I will be happy.
* The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.
* I've learned that ultimately , 'takers' lose and 'givers' win.
* Life's precious moments don't have value, unless they are shared.
* If you don't start, it's certain you won't arrive.
* We often fear the thing we want the most.
* He or she who laughs......lasts.
* Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints.
* Look for opportunities..not guarantees.
* Life is what's coming....not what was.
* Success is getting up one more time.
* Now is the most interesting time of all.
* When things go wrong.....don't go with them.
How To Tell If A Girl Really Likes U 3 Simple Ways To Know?
Relationships are one of the most frustrating aspects of human existence. It seems like some kind of cosmic joke that men and women are so different in every way, yet we?re supposed to pair up successfully. It can seem impossible to tell what the opposite sex is thinking and how we can respond. Unfortunately, many men depend on an ill-informed set of criteria to decode what they think women want. Eyelash batting is a sure sigh if you?re into the middle-school set. What you should be keeping your eyes peeled for is a combination of positives and negatives. Here?s some insight to how real women show there interest, or lack of.
1- Body Language
This is a big one. There?s a lot of information to be gathered here. It will tell you if she?s interested, and it can tell you if she?s not. . Pay attention to how she?s sitting. Are her legs crossed toward you or away from you? If they?re toward you, then chat with her; if they?re away, then you should go away too. If she?s closed off, meaning she?s physically withdraw from you: turns away, folds her arms, avoids eye contact, she?s telling you to keep moving. If you see the opposite behaviors, have a seat.
2- The eyes have it
If her body language says yes, then you?re probably close enough to check out her eyes. Our pupils dilate when we look at something we desire. There?s no way to fake it either way. It?s basic biology.
3- Get a clue
If you?re not catching the nonverbals she?s throwing out, listen to the words that are coming out of her mouth. There are certain topics a woman will never broach with a man she?d like to get to know better, and some things she?s only say if she?s into you:
* Exes - If she talks about other guys, even ex boyfriends, she?s saying there?s no room for you.
* Eternity ? If she goes over the top about how she?s itching to tie the knot, she?s either got issues you don?t want to get involved with or she wants rid of you.
It?s a fail proof way to run a new guy off. The same goes for any degree of biological clock ticking.
*Interrogation If she?s interested, she?ll ask. It?s that simple. No woman is going to ask get-to-know-you-type questions to a man she doesn?t want to know about. If she?s asking about your job, your family, your extra curricular activities, treat it like a job interview. You are being evaluated for compatibility and boyfriend potential.
So, forget everything you think you know about hair twirling and giggling. Grown women don?t behave that way. Dating can be tricky, especially at the start, but there?s no need to complicate things by trying to play it like a guessing game. Responding to simple social cues will save a lot of confusion for all involved. Uncomplicated relationship doesn?t have to be an oxymoron.
1- Body Language
This is a big one. There?s a lot of information to be gathered here. It will tell you if she?s interested, and it can tell you if she?s not. . Pay attention to how she?s sitting. Are her legs crossed toward you or away from you? If they?re toward you, then chat with her; if they?re away, then you should go away too. If she?s closed off, meaning she?s physically withdraw from you: turns away, folds her arms, avoids eye contact, she?s telling you to keep moving. If you see the opposite behaviors, have a seat.
2- The eyes have it
If her body language says yes, then you?re probably close enough to check out her eyes. Our pupils dilate when we look at something we desire. There?s no way to fake it either way. It?s basic biology.
3- Get a clue
If you?re not catching the nonverbals she?s throwing out, listen to the words that are coming out of her mouth. There are certain topics a woman will never broach with a man she?d like to get to know better, and some things she?s only say if she?s into you:
* Exes - If she talks about other guys, even ex boyfriends, she?s saying there?s no room for you.
* Eternity ? If she goes over the top about how she?s itching to tie the knot, she?s either got issues you don?t want to get involved with or she wants rid of you.
It?s a fail proof way to run a new guy off. The same goes for any degree of biological clock ticking.
*Interrogation If she?s interested, she?ll ask. It?s that simple. No woman is going to ask get-to-know-you-type questions to a man she doesn?t want to know about. If she?s asking about your job, your family, your extra curricular activities, treat it like a job interview. You are being evaluated for compatibility and boyfriend potential.
So, forget everything you think you know about hair twirling and giggling. Grown women don?t behave that way. Dating can be tricky, especially at the start, but there?s no need to complicate things by trying to play it like a guessing game. Responding to simple social cues will save a lot of confusion for all involved. Uncomplicated relationship doesn?t have to be an oxymoron.
A Quit Smoking Tip That Can Change Your Life
A Quit Smoking Tip That Can Change Your Life Do you want to quit
smoking?
There is a very powerful quit smoking tip that can
literally change your life – because it would ensure your 100%
success. Do you want to know what this is? Read on and find out all
about it.What You Need To Quit Smoking Once For AllI read once a
quip that made me smile – `Who says quitting smoking is difficult?
I have quit it five times and there is nothing to it.' Yes, usually
this is what happens. You think you left smoking for good and the
habit is behind you. Then, you just smoke once with your friends –
for the sake of old times – and that is it.In your mind, this is
just a one-time-smoke bit; nothing to worry about.
This would be like an occasional chocolate cake slice when you diet.
However, in no time, you find yourself `treating' yourself on a regular basis,
and supposedly out of the blue you will back smoking regularly
again.
You need to know and keep in mind that getting back to
smoking is extremely easy.
smoking?
There is a very powerful quit smoking tip that can
literally change your life – because it would ensure your 100%
success. Do you want to know what this is? Read on and find out all
about it.What You Need To Quit Smoking Once For AllI read once a
quip that made me smile – `Who says quitting smoking is difficult?
I have quit it five times and there is nothing to it.' Yes, usually
this is what happens. You think you left smoking for good and the
habit is behind you. Then, you just smoke once with your friends –
for the sake of old times – and that is it.In your mind, this is
just a one-time-smoke bit; nothing to worry about.
This would be like an occasional chocolate cake slice when you diet.
However, in no time, you find yourself `treating' yourself on a regular basis,
and supposedly out of the blue you will back smoking regularly
again.
You need to know and keep in mind that getting back to
smoking is extremely easy.
Tips For Forming Better Relationships
With very less real interaction in the bedroom and with rising interaction in boardrooms, a marriage becomes a bond of convenience.
Every marriage experiences ennui once in a while. The foundation of every relationship, especially marriage is friendship. And the foundation of every friendship is acceptance. When we're in the company of friends, we tend to throw up our feet and let our hair down. While most couples take the liberty of becoming complacent, we must also remember to create an atmosphere where our partners also have the liberty to be on their own.
Listening to spouse's woes can certainly create a strong bond. Even if a spouse is lamenting over one's own parent's behavior, listening and understanding can cement the bond. Being indebted to one's parents doesn't mean we refuse to see them in the light our partners perceive them. Our parents have walked a great length along with us and the rest of the journey has to be completed with our partner.
Pitching in daily affairs like caring for toddlers, like taking turns in changing nappies, looking after schoolwork of grown children, attending to convalescing in-laws, joking with a spouse's siblings or friends are things that can forge a stronger bond.
Joining in dinnertime conversations, discussing office politics, world affairs etc can also create a friendship. After all listening and conversation are the foundations of any good friendship. Here, non-judgmental listening is what is needed.
Like the way we never leave anything under the carpet, nothing in a relationship should be kept secret. Past issues, like hurts, insecurities, lies, etc should be brought out into the open and discussed. Couples must vow never to carry the previous day's hurts into a new day. Every day is a new day and yesterday's hurts should never mar today.
While it's easy to criticize a spouse, the best solution is to find a solution for a problem. While complaining, give a solution, an option too. Let it sound like a brainstorming session at work. And once in a while, it's wise to let the spouse let off steam. However, ensure that each partner gets to let off steam.
Communication is the keyword. Marriage requires an investment too. Exactly the way any friendship needs. Communicating appreciation, anger, joy etc can fortify a marriage. Dating each other without the children can be fun and revive your romance.
Like a plant that requires water, sunlight, soil, pruning and weeding, your marriage needs all these too. Marriage is the soil and love is the manure on which the plant flourishes. Sex is the regular watering that is essential for the plant to grow. The warmth of your appreciation cannot be underestimated. When you weed out, remember to weed out the third party from your marriage that includes your own parents and unwanted rivals. And when you prune, see that you don't uproot, and remember pruning always heralds new and luxuriant growth.
Every marriage experiences ennui once in a while. The foundation of every relationship, especially marriage is friendship. And the foundation of every friendship is acceptance. When we're in the company of friends, we tend to throw up our feet and let our hair down. While most couples take the liberty of becoming complacent, we must also remember to create an atmosphere where our partners also have the liberty to be on their own.
Listening to spouse's woes can certainly create a strong bond. Even if a spouse is lamenting over one's own parent's behavior, listening and understanding can cement the bond. Being indebted to one's parents doesn't mean we refuse to see them in the light our partners perceive them. Our parents have walked a great length along with us and the rest of the journey has to be completed with our partner.
Pitching in daily affairs like caring for toddlers, like taking turns in changing nappies, looking after schoolwork of grown children, attending to convalescing in-laws, joking with a spouse's siblings or friends are things that can forge a stronger bond.
Joining in dinnertime conversations, discussing office politics, world affairs etc can also create a friendship. After all listening and conversation are the foundations of any good friendship. Here, non-judgmental listening is what is needed.
Like the way we never leave anything under the carpet, nothing in a relationship should be kept secret. Past issues, like hurts, insecurities, lies, etc should be brought out into the open and discussed. Couples must vow never to carry the previous day's hurts into a new day. Every day is a new day and yesterday's hurts should never mar today.
While it's easy to criticize a spouse, the best solution is to find a solution for a problem. While complaining, give a solution, an option too. Let it sound like a brainstorming session at work. And once in a while, it's wise to let the spouse let off steam. However, ensure that each partner gets to let off steam.
Communication is the keyword. Marriage requires an investment too. Exactly the way any friendship needs. Communicating appreciation, anger, joy etc can fortify a marriage. Dating each other without the children can be fun and revive your romance.
Like a plant that requires water, sunlight, soil, pruning and weeding, your marriage needs all these too. Marriage is the soil and love is the manure on which the plant flourishes. Sex is the regular watering that is essential for the plant to grow. The warmth of your appreciation cannot be underestimated. When you weed out, remember to weed out the third party from your marriage that includes your own parents and unwanted rivals. And when you prune, see that you don't uproot, and remember pruning always heralds new and luxuriant growth.
Ten Keys for Finding Happiness
Use these Ten Keys for Finding Happiness in Your Life
1. Live on purpose. Joyful aliveness connects you with your purpose. Learn the skills you need to create happiness. Discover the activities and pursuits that make your heart sing! These engaging activities provide clues to your purpose and will assist you in finding happiness.
If you want to maintain desperation and unhappiness, then believe that life has no purpose.
2. Find Happiness right now. No other time exists for experiencing happiness. Only the present moment contains the spark of life!
You may also create misery by constantly wanting to speed ahead to some other time. Most people live their lives wanting to exist elsewhere and elsewhen.
3. Accept total responsibility for your life! You create your reality and your emotions. Your power and focus exceed your wildest dreams. See this short video about finding happiness through creating reality.
You can choose to blame and whine, pretending that your life situation came from without, rather than from within. As within, so without. Accept total responsibility for all.
4. Act in boldness. Take on challenges and pursue lofty goals. Overcoming difficulties and obstacles provide some of the most exquisite joys in life.
To create misery, play it totally safe. Never do anything scary or risky. Follow your fears and let them guide your actions. For happiness and joy - feel the fear, and do it anyway!
5. Expect happiness. Hope consists of a perfect expectation of desirable things to come. Picture desirable things to come. You choose what to think about, and what to visualize in your mind's eye! Imagine yourself finding happiness.
Despair consists of a perfect expectation of undesirable things to come. To increase despair, simply imagine in detail terrible things that may happen to you. The better your imagination, the deeper the despair. You get what you truly expect, so expect happiness.
6. Increase your awareness. Feel your emotions consciously. Identify your core beliefs. Constantly learn and grow from the inside. Your unhealthy attitudes, habits, and behaviors will start to drop away like fall leaves. Watch this quick video on identifying emotions.
To maintain apathy and misery, just remain unaware. Allow clarity to flee from you like a deer from a hunter. Remain in unconsciousness and cloudiness - afraid to explore your beliefs.
7. Build your connections. Our relationships give life meaning and happiness. All of us truly connect to one another in the inner world. Building connections in the physical world builds on this inner reality and helps us in finding happiness.
To create misery, simply separate yourself from others. Think that you exist as an independent entity, and other people merely drag you down. Insist on separateness and division. Deny the truth of connectedness and pursue unreality.
8. Learn and read daily. We grow in large measure due to the people we meet and the books we read. Did you read 52 books last year? Did you foster more friendships? We create happiness when we grow and increase our wisdom.
To prevent happiness, try not to meet any new people this year, and don't read any new books either. Simply stay just the same person with the exact same ideas. For optimal joy, go for optimal growth and learning!
9. Serve other people. Truly recognize other people as real people, with needs and wants just like your own. Think how you can bring a smile to someone, and then do it! Give increased life in every encounter. Service is a huge key for finding happiness in your life.
To create misery, ignore other people and totally concern yourself with your own needs. Don't think of other people as real.
10. Prioritize your actions. Know your goals and purposes, and put power and faith into every action. Do each action with focus and purpose, and know why you choose the activities you expend your energy on.
If you want to decrease joy, simply do as many things as you can each day. Never think of which tasks connect with your goals, simply busy yourself with work.
Enjoy the Ten Keys to Finding Happiness!
1. Live on purpose. Joyful aliveness connects you with your purpose. Learn the skills you need to create happiness. Discover the activities and pursuits that make your heart sing! These engaging activities provide clues to your purpose and will assist you in finding happiness.
If you want to maintain desperation and unhappiness, then believe that life has no purpose.
2. Find Happiness right now. No other time exists for experiencing happiness. Only the present moment contains the spark of life!
You may also create misery by constantly wanting to speed ahead to some other time. Most people live their lives wanting to exist elsewhere and elsewhen.
3. Accept total responsibility for your life! You create your reality and your emotions. Your power and focus exceed your wildest dreams. See this short video about finding happiness through creating reality.
You can choose to blame and whine, pretending that your life situation came from without, rather than from within. As within, so without. Accept total responsibility for all.
4. Act in boldness. Take on challenges and pursue lofty goals. Overcoming difficulties and obstacles provide some of the most exquisite joys in life.
To create misery, play it totally safe. Never do anything scary or risky. Follow your fears and let them guide your actions. For happiness and joy - feel the fear, and do it anyway!
5. Expect happiness. Hope consists of a perfect expectation of desirable things to come. Picture desirable things to come. You choose what to think about, and what to visualize in your mind's eye! Imagine yourself finding happiness.
Despair consists of a perfect expectation of undesirable things to come. To increase despair, simply imagine in detail terrible things that may happen to you. The better your imagination, the deeper the despair. You get what you truly expect, so expect happiness.
6. Increase your awareness. Feel your emotions consciously. Identify your core beliefs. Constantly learn and grow from the inside. Your unhealthy attitudes, habits, and behaviors will start to drop away like fall leaves. Watch this quick video on identifying emotions.
To maintain apathy and misery, just remain unaware. Allow clarity to flee from you like a deer from a hunter. Remain in unconsciousness and cloudiness - afraid to explore your beliefs.
7. Build your connections. Our relationships give life meaning and happiness. All of us truly connect to one another in the inner world. Building connections in the physical world builds on this inner reality and helps us in finding happiness.
To create misery, simply separate yourself from others. Think that you exist as an independent entity, and other people merely drag you down. Insist on separateness and division. Deny the truth of connectedness and pursue unreality.
8. Learn and read daily. We grow in large measure due to the people we meet and the books we read. Did you read 52 books last year? Did you foster more friendships? We create happiness when we grow and increase our wisdom.
To prevent happiness, try not to meet any new people this year, and don't read any new books either. Simply stay just the same person with the exact same ideas. For optimal joy, go for optimal growth and learning!
9. Serve other people. Truly recognize other people as real people, with needs and wants just like your own. Think how you can bring a smile to someone, and then do it! Give increased life in every encounter. Service is a huge key for finding happiness in your life.
To create misery, ignore other people and totally concern yourself with your own needs. Don't think of other people as real.
10. Prioritize your actions. Know your goals and purposes, and put power and faith into every action. Do each action with focus and purpose, and know why you choose the activities you expend your energy on.
If you want to decrease joy, simply do as many things as you can each day. Never think of which tasks connect with your goals, simply busy yourself with work.
Enjoy the Ten Keys to Finding Happiness!
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Mediterranean diet fights depression
People who practice the Mediterranean diet have 30% less chances of getting depressed than those who don’t.
People whopractice the so-called Mediterranean diet, that is, people whose menus are rich in vegetables, fruits, nuts, grains and fish, are at a lower risk of developing depression, Reuters writes.
The research conducted by Spanish scientists, found that those who ate the Mediterranean diet reduced the risk of depression by as much as 30 percent compared to those who didn’t.
Mediterranean diet reduces the risk of diabetes
- The specific mechanisms that prevent the occurrence of depression, are still not known - Almudena Sanchez-Villegas from the University of Las Palmas, which conducted this study, said.
However, she states that elements of the diet can greatly improve cardiovascular function, restore damaged cells in the body, and reduce the development of depression.
The advantage of the Mediterranean diet, the experts note, is also that it reduces the risk of diabetes, asthma and cancer. Scientists obtained this data by analyzing the questionnaire that was filled by 11,000 persons.
Hippo was the main ingredient of the first soup
Discover how many snails do French eat every year, what is the Worcestershire sauce and what can you make out of peanuts.
Every day the media relates various tips on nutrition, new discoveries, diets and the like. However, there is still lots of interesting information that many people are generally unfamiliar with. We bring you some of it:
- Lemons contain more sugar than strawberries.
- Onion was named after the Latin word meaning a large pearl.
- Half of the world's population lives mainly on rice.
- The average person consumes about 35 tons of food during their lifetime.
- Ice cream comes from China and it was brought to Europe by Marco Polo.
- In France, 500,000,000 snails are eaten every year.
- A gallon of drinking water contains about 100,000 bacteria.
- Skimmed milk contains as much of calcium as a whole.
- Frozen vegetables are sometimes healthier than the fresh, especially if the fresh stayed at a room temperature.
- Supposedly Giacomo Casanova consumed chocolate before the conquest of women - due to its aphrodisiac abilities.
- After the milk is exposed to sun light for two hours, it loses between half and two thirds of its vitamin B content.
- If one of the sources of your vitamin C is meat or beans, the body will make a better use of iron.
- Peanuts are used to manufacture dynamite – peanut butter oil is transformed into glycerol, which is later processed into nitroglycerin, one of the ingredients of dynamite.
- Worcestershire sauce is created by dissolving anchovies in vinegar, until the anchovies melt completely, including bones.
- The first soup that was ever made contained hippo
- The remains of fast food restaurants were found even in the ruins of ancient cities. Even the ancient Greeks loved fast food. The only thing that is new is a mass production, standard menus and fast food recipes.
- Wieners were first made in China
- In the Middle Ages, the fish was traditionally served with a slice of lemon, because it was thought that the lemon juice degraded all accidentally swallowed bones.
Meat
Untill the year 1300 the word ‘meat’ referred to all solid foods, while the word ‘drink’ was used for all the liquid foods. Around the same year the word ‘meat’ was increasingly used to mark the animal flesh used for food. Shortly afterwards, when the meat of animals become a significant part of the English diet, this term got its present meaning.
Alcohol in cooking
Contrary to what most people believe, and this includes many professionals, beer, wine or other alcoholic beverages used in preparation of the food remain after cooking process is done and they do not evaporate.
100 percent of alcohol remains in the dishes that are immediately consumed. Leave the dishes overnight, and the alcohol content will be reduced to about 70 percent. Boiled dishes will contain about 85 percent of the original alcohol and the open-flame preparation will preserve about 75 percent. Alcohol concentration decreases significantly only after 2.5 hours of cooking when only 5 percent remains.
Fork
Spain and Italy were the first countries that adopted the use of table fork. It happened in the 16th century, almost one hundred years before it was first used in France.
60 Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love, —Guaranteed—
1- Make her feel secure- don’t joke about divorcing her, this will put a hole in your marriage.
2- Always greet her whenever you arrive
3- Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her- In this vessel there is a lot of goodness so treat her in a gentle manner.
4- Advice her in privacy and the best timing. Don’t advice her in the presence of others, it can be a type of humility
5- Be generous with her
6- Move out of your way for her, when she’s coming to sit get up and let her sit on your seat tell her: ‘here honey sit I warmed up the seat for you’
7- Avoid anger.
8- Look good for her and smell great.
9- Don’t be rigid, you will be broken- just because you are a man doesn’t mean you have to be harsh hearted
10- Be a good listener
11- Say yes for flattering and no for arguing.
12- Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear.
13- Surprise her secretly. Ex: Bring her a watermelon when it’s not the season of watermelons. Pick and choose in surprising her, be an artist in surprising her pleasantly
14- Preserve the tongue
15- Accept her shortcomings/ everyone has one
16- Show your appreciation to her
17- Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relations
18- Speak topics of her interest.
19- Speak of her goodness in the presence of others
20- Shower her with gifts. give gifts and you’ll love each other’ MML It’s doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the gift is, it’s the thought that counts!
21- Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Ex: Buy her ticket to a vacation cruise or something that she will enjoy.
22- Think good of her-
23- Ignore some of the words/actions you don’t like
24- Add a drop of patience- It can go a long way- i.e: at her time of pregnancy, menses…etc
25- Expect and respect her jealousy.
26- Be humble
27- Don’t put a price on her happiness.
28- Help her around household chores
29- You can’t force her to love her in laws, but help her respect and love your parents.
30- Show her that she is an ideal wife; each and every wife is an ideal wife in many ways, so make her feel that.
31- Make dua’a for her and always remember her in your dua’as
32- Leave her past
33- Don’t show her that you are doing favors by doing your duties
34- ****aan/Satan is your enemy NOT your wife!
35- When eating, don’t only feed yourself, feed her TOO! - Not only does it go to the stomach but to the heart too.
36- Look at her as a precious pearl, treat her and take care of her like a precious pearl
37- Speaking of pearlsà show her YOUR pearlsà SMILE! . Don’t put your smile out-of-service when you reach home! Don’t be rigid.
38- Don’t hold grudges. Deal with the littlest matters and don’t ignore them, it will build up and will create a wall between you and your wife.
39- Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40- Respect her thinking; her thinking strengthens you.
41- Help her discover/develop her skills and her success within
42- Respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship- it’s a fragile matter.
43- Help her with the children; it’s not only her job it’s yours too!
44- Complement her!-give her the gifts of the tongues-
45- Don’t be a stranger to her meals, know your wife’s meals, and eat her food.
46- Let her know when you are traveling don’t just disappear, and also let her know about your arrival.
47- When arguments arise, deal with it and don’t run away from it.
48- Don’t share your home secrets with your friends. Keep your privacy, and don’t make it a garage sale.
49- Encourage each other to worship together, listen to a lecture/recitation.-
50- Engrave her rights in your heart and in your conscious
51- Treat her with kindness through happiness and sorrow
52- Don’t jump on your wife like a ball!, in fact polish your love with many kisses- A kiss is a messenger-
53- When disputes happen between you and your wife, don’t go and share it with the whole world.-don’t leave your wounds open for the germs-
54- Show her that you care for her health.
55- Don’t think that you are right all the time!-No one Is perfect but the prophet (saw)-
56- Share you happiness and sorrow with her.
57- Have mercy on her.
58- Be the shoulder she can lean on!
59- Accept her as is, she’s a bent rib so don’t try to straighten it.
*Side note: A dear friend once said: “a bent rib cannot be straightened, and in fact the beauty of it lies within its curve!”
60- Have good intentions for your wife -
2- Always greet her whenever you arrive
3- Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her- In this vessel there is a lot of goodness so treat her in a gentle manner.
4- Advice her in privacy and the best timing. Don’t advice her in the presence of others, it can be a type of humility
5- Be generous with her
6- Move out of your way for her, when she’s coming to sit get up and let her sit on your seat tell her: ‘here honey sit I warmed up the seat for you’
7- Avoid anger.
8- Look good for her and smell great.
9- Don’t be rigid, you will be broken- just because you are a man doesn’t mean you have to be harsh hearted
10- Be a good listener
11- Say yes for flattering and no for arguing.
12- Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear.
13- Surprise her secretly. Ex: Bring her a watermelon when it’s not the season of watermelons. Pick and choose in surprising her, be an artist in surprising her pleasantly
14- Preserve the tongue
15- Accept her shortcomings/ everyone has one
16- Show your appreciation to her
17- Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relations
18- Speak topics of her interest.
19- Speak of her goodness in the presence of others
20- Shower her with gifts. give gifts and you’ll love each other’ MML It’s doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the gift is, it’s the thought that counts!
21- Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Ex: Buy her ticket to a vacation cruise or something that she will enjoy.
22- Think good of her-
23- Ignore some of the words/actions you don’t like
24- Add a drop of patience- It can go a long way- i.e: at her time of pregnancy, menses…etc
25- Expect and respect her jealousy.
26- Be humble
27- Don’t put a price on her happiness.
28- Help her around household chores
29- You can’t force her to love her in laws, but help her respect and love your parents.
30- Show her that she is an ideal wife; each and every wife is an ideal wife in many ways, so make her feel that.
31- Make dua’a for her and always remember her in your dua’as
32- Leave her past
33- Don’t show her that you are doing favors by doing your duties
34- ****aan/Satan is your enemy NOT your wife!
35- When eating, don’t only feed yourself, feed her TOO! - Not only does it go to the stomach but to the heart too.
36- Look at her as a precious pearl, treat her and take care of her like a precious pearl
37- Speaking of pearlsà show her YOUR pearlsà SMILE! . Don’t put your smile out-of-service when you reach home! Don’t be rigid.
38- Don’t hold grudges. Deal with the littlest matters and don’t ignore them, it will build up and will create a wall between you and your wife.
39- Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40- Respect her thinking; her thinking strengthens you.
41- Help her discover/develop her skills and her success within
42- Respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship- it’s a fragile matter.
43- Help her with the children; it’s not only her job it’s yours too!
44- Complement her!-give her the gifts of the tongues-
45- Don’t be a stranger to her meals, know your wife’s meals, and eat her food.
46- Let her know when you are traveling don’t just disappear, and also let her know about your arrival.
47- When arguments arise, deal with it and don’t run away from it.
48- Don’t share your home secrets with your friends. Keep your privacy, and don’t make it a garage sale.
49- Encourage each other to worship together, listen to a lecture/recitation.-
50- Engrave her rights in your heart and in your conscious
51- Treat her with kindness through happiness and sorrow
52- Don’t jump on your wife like a ball!, in fact polish your love with many kisses- A kiss is a messenger-
53- When disputes happen between you and your wife, don’t go and share it with the whole world.-don’t leave your wounds open for the germs-
54- Show her that you care for her health.
55- Don’t think that you are right all the time!-No one Is perfect but the prophet (saw)-
56- Share you happiness and sorrow with her.
57- Have mercy on her.
58- Be the shoulder she can lean on!
59- Accept her as is, she’s a bent rib so don’t try to straighten it.
*Side note: A dear friend once said: “a bent rib cannot be straightened, and in fact the beauty of it lies within its curve!”
60- Have good intentions for your wife -
Changing Your Subconscious Mind
There are a number of ways you can reprogram your subconscious mind but there are also many things in everyday society that make the process of changing your subconscious mind much more difficult that would ideally be best to avoid or at least attempt to avoid.
One of the fastest ways to change you subconscious mind is to get a grip on your emotions or your emotional state. If you are an overly emotional person this is both good and bad. It is most definitely good in cases where you are a very happy and positive person as your upbeat emotional state keeps sending positive energy out into the universe and the cycle of this continues to bring you more positive energy back into your everyday life. If you are usually quite negative or pessimistic the same negative energy you send out continues to return to you and the cycle continues.
Changing your subconscious mind from negative to positive would be best addressed by taking a look at what makes your emotions lean towards the negative. Let us take a look at the classic example of someone who is always emotionally negative due to a lack of money. Your subconscious mind in most cases believes you have no money and money is very difficult for you to come by. It is the belief in having no money that keeps you in that state of having no money. The process of changing your inner mind in this case would mean changing the negative belief you have about money.
So how do we change your subconscious mind to have a new positive belief about money? Well the process of changing your subconscious mind is quite simple but in reality we all know this process certainly does not appear to be simple since so many people are poor but would like to be rich. Everyone might like to be rich but unfortunately not everyone is prepared to do what is necessary to change the subconscious mind.
One of the first things you need to do in relation to changing your subconscious mind is to take a close look at the chatter or self talk that goes on in the back of your mind all day long. I have read that scientists believe the average person has around 50,000 thoughts per day, now that is a lot. Of course in all these thoughts we are going to be thinking about many, many things in the course of a day from what we are going to eat, where we are going, who we will see, what we will say, we will think about our relationships with others, we will also think about money and think about numerous other things as well.
If you constantly think about a lack of money and your self talk enforces that negative subconscious belief you need to look at what caused you to think negatively about money if you ever plan on changing your subconscious mind. Did your parents or other people tell you that you will never have money? Do you believe that you are not worthy of money or only lucky people have a lot of money. No matter what the reasons are it does not really matter, what does matter is that you understand that the one and only reason why you do not have money is because you believe you do not have money. By changing your subconscious mind and your belief about money within your subconscious mind to that of having money and believing money comes to you easily instead of the opposite, you will have money. The same thing goes for changing your subconscious mind about enjoying a great relationship or feeling healthy or anything else. Once you change the subconscious belief you change your life.
Although affirmations and the repetitions of affirmations works incredibly well with changing your subconscious mind, most people I have personally spoken to about this tell me honestly that usually they do not commit to their affirmations and therefore they get mixed results. With commitment to any endeavor you pursue within your life you will get a more positive result and the same thing goes for changing your subconscious mind.
Visualization is another super effective way to change your subconscious mind and the more you get into the habit of using the visualization technique the clearer you will be able to see the images and the faster you will get results. Creative visualization and positive affirmations work very well together but you need to keep at it, if you quit after a week or so I would not even bother to start in the first place since you will only frustrate your self. Why not try just 3 minutes of creative visualization with a positive affirmation 3 times a day just to get started and commit to this for at least one month. This really helped me in changing my subconscious mind and now I enjoy doing it. I still get a buzz when I begin to notice changes in my life as the visualizations in my subconscious mind start to appear in my reality.
Another way that really helps with changing your subconscious mind is to turn off the tv. Yes I am serious, turn off the TV and especially the news programs. I cannot stress this enough. Every time you watch a news program or look at the newspaper or even listen to the news programs on the radio you are submersing your subconscious mind in a pool of negativity, hatred, despair, war, violence, crime, pain and poverty. You may well be addicted to all the negativity I just mentioned but not even be aware of it. The news media makes a lot of money out of all the negativity in the world and most people feed on this garbage everyday for their entire lives. No wonder so many people live in poverty and there is so much hatred, crime and war in this world. We see it, we believe it and the more we believe it the more it continues.
While you continue to watch the TV and absorb all the negative statistics you end up becoming one yourself. You may not be aware of it but your subconscious mind is feeding on everything it sees and hears from the moment you are born to the moment you die and perhaps after you are dead but I really do not know about that. If you feed it thoughts of worldwide unhappiness and pain you will become a statistic of that world of pain.
The best thing you can do in regards changing your subconscious mind is to feed it positive energy by thinking positive thoughts about literally anything that is positive. Feed it feelings of love not feelings of hate towards your neighbor or someone from your past that hurt your feelings.
Forget about the past, leave it in the past and move on to a brighter future with a fresh bunch of new thoughts and feelings. You can do this if you believe you can and turning off the TV is a step in the right direction.
Changing your subconscious mind has only been a problem for you and the rest of the planet because you have been misguided somewhere along the way. Abundance and a world full of happiness is yours for the taking when you believe it is right there in front of you. In fact once you change your subconscious mind you will begin to see things simply arrive in your life like magic. So stop being a statistic and start to become the magician you really are.
One of the fastest ways to change you subconscious mind is to get a grip on your emotions or your emotional state. If you are an overly emotional person this is both good and bad. It is most definitely good in cases where you are a very happy and positive person as your upbeat emotional state keeps sending positive energy out into the universe and the cycle of this continues to bring you more positive energy back into your everyday life. If you are usually quite negative or pessimistic the same negative energy you send out continues to return to you and the cycle continues.
Changing your subconscious mind from negative to positive would be best addressed by taking a look at what makes your emotions lean towards the negative. Let us take a look at the classic example of someone who is always emotionally negative due to a lack of money. Your subconscious mind in most cases believes you have no money and money is very difficult for you to come by. It is the belief in having no money that keeps you in that state of having no money. The process of changing your inner mind in this case would mean changing the negative belief you have about money.
So how do we change your subconscious mind to have a new positive belief about money? Well the process of changing your subconscious mind is quite simple but in reality we all know this process certainly does not appear to be simple since so many people are poor but would like to be rich. Everyone might like to be rich but unfortunately not everyone is prepared to do what is necessary to change the subconscious mind.
One of the first things you need to do in relation to changing your subconscious mind is to take a close look at the chatter or self talk that goes on in the back of your mind all day long. I have read that scientists believe the average person has around 50,000 thoughts per day, now that is a lot. Of course in all these thoughts we are going to be thinking about many, many things in the course of a day from what we are going to eat, where we are going, who we will see, what we will say, we will think about our relationships with others, we will also think about money and think about numerous other things as well.
If you constantly think about a lack of money and your self talk enforces that negative subconscious belief you need to look at what caused you to think negatively about money if you ever plan on changing your subconscious mind. Did your parents or other people tell you that you will never have money? Do you believe that you are not worthy of money or only lucky people have a lot of money. No matter what the reasons are it does not really matter, what does matter is that you understand that the one and only reason why you do not have money is because you believe you do not have money. By changing your subconscious mind and your belief about money within your subconscious mind to that of having money and believing money comes to you easily instead of the opposite, you will have money. The same thing goes for changing your subconscious mind about enjoying a great relationship or feeling healthy or anything else. Once you change the subconscious belief you change your life.
Although affirmations and the repetitions of affirmations works incredibly well with changing your subconscious mind, most people I have personally spoken to about this tell me honestly that usually they do not commit to their affirmations and therefore they get mixed results. With commitment to any endeavor you pursue within your life you will get a more positive result and the same thing goes for changing your subconscious mind.
Visualization is another super effective way to change your subconscious mind and the more you get into the habit of using the visualization technique the clearer you will be able to see the images and the faster you will get results. Creative visualization and positive affirmations work very well together but you need to keep at it, if you quit after a week or so I would not even bother to start in the first place since you will only frustrate your self. Why not try just 3 minutes of creative visualization with a positive affirmation 3 times a day just to get started and commit to this for at least one month. This really helped me in changing my subconscious mind and now I enjoy doing it. I still get a buzz when I begin to notice changes in my life as the visualizations in my subconscious mind start to appear in my reality.
Another way that really helps with changing your subconscious mind is to turn off the tv. Yes I am serious, turn off the TV and especially the news programs. I cannot stress this enough. Every time you watch a news program or look at the newspaper or even listen to the news programs on the radio you are submersing your subconscious mind in a pool of negativity, hatred, despair, war, violence, crime, pain and poverty. You may well be addicted to all the negativity I just mentioned but not even be aware of it. The news media makes a lot of money out of all the negativity in the world and most people feed on this garbage everyday for their entire lives. No wonder so many people live in poverty and there is so much hatred, crime and war in this world. We see it, we believe it and the more we believe it the more it continues.
While you continue to watch the TV and absorb all the negative statistics you end up becoming one yourself. You may not be aware of it but your subconscious mind is feeding on everything it sees and hears from the moment you are born to the moment you die and perhaps after you are dead but I really do not know about that. If you feed it thoughts of worldwide unhappiness and pain you will become a statistic of that world of pain.
The best thing you can do in regards changing your subconscious mind is to feed it positive energy by thinking positive thoughts about literally anything that is positive. Feed it feelings of love not feelings of hate towards your neighbor or someone from your past that hurt your feelings.
Forget about the past, leave it in the past and move on to a brighter future with a fresh bunch of new thoughts and feelings. You can do this if you believe you can and turning off the TV is a step in the right direction.
Changing your subconscious mind has only been a problem for you and the rest of the planet because you have been misguided somewhere along the way. Abundance and a world full of happiness is yours for the taking when you believe it is right there in front of you. In fact once you change your subconscious mind you will begin to see things simply arrive in your life like magic. So stop being a statistic and start to become the magician you really are.
Poison of a Materialistic Society
A man who doesn't have a stable job and money is neither beautiful nor intelligent. A man who has money is beautiful as well as intelligent.
A son who doesn't do a job and give money to his mother after one month is not a son. A son who earns and gives it to his mother is actually a son.
A husband who works 18 hours a day but can't give a handsome amount of money to his wife is not her husband despite of the fact that he works for 18 hours and tries his best. A husband who takes bribes and gives handsome money to his wife is a good husband.
A society built upon the ideology of Greed. And where people don't appreciate one's effort but the product which the other person is providing, no matter it is from legal ways or illegal ways, is a society I call a failed society full of Pimps.
A son who doesn't do a job and give money to his mother after one month is not a son. A son who earns and gives it to his mother is actually a son.
A husband who works 18 hours a day but can't give a handsome amount of money to his wife is not her husband despite of the fact that he works for 18 hours and tries his best. A husband who takes bribes and gives handsome money to his wife is a good husband.
A society built upon the ideology of Greed. And where people don't appreciate one's effort but the product which the other person is providing, no matter it is from legal ways or illegal ways, is a society I call a failed society full of Pimps.
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