Psychologists investigated whether happy and unhappy people differed because of the types of conversations they engaged in.
Volunteers wore an unobtrusive recording device to monitor conversations with friends and colleagues for four days.
Researchers then listened to the recordings and identified them as trivial small talk or substantive discussions.
In addition, the volunteers completed personality and wellbeing assessments.
Reporting the findings in the journal Psychological Science, the researchers said the recordings revealed some startling findings.
Greater wellbeing was related to spending less time alone and more time talking to others. The happiest participants spent 25 per cent less time alone and 70 per cent more time talking than the unhappiest.
But the researchers were surprised to discover that the type of conversations people took part in also affected their happiness levels.
The happiest participants had twice as many deep and meaningful conversations and one third as much small talk as the unhappiest.
Matthias Mehl, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, said: "These findings suggest that the happy life is social and conversationally deep rather than solitary and superficial."
The researchers conclude that profound conversations may have the potential to make people happier.
They said: "Just as self-disclosure can instill a sense of intimacy in a relationship, deep conversations may instill a sense of meaning in interaction with partners."
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Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
I’ll Let Gays Serve Openly In Military, Barak Obama
He's been criticized by some advocates for not moving faster on their issues
WASHINGTON - President Barack Obama pledged to end the ban on homosexuals serving openly in the military in a speech Saturday, but acknowledged to a cheering crowd that the policy changes he promised on the campaign trail are not coming as quickly as they expected.
"I will end 'don't ask-don't tell,'" Obama said to a standing ovation from the crowd of about 3,000 at the annual dinner of the Human Rights Campaign, a gay civil rights advocacy group. Obama reaffirmed his commitment to end the ban, but did not give a timetable or the specifics that some activists have called for.
The law was passed by Congress in 1993 and signed by President Bill Clinton, who also promised to repeal the ban on homosexuals in the military but was blunted by opposition in the military and Congress. Obama said he's working with Pentagon and congressional leaders on ending the policy.
"We should not be punishing patriotic Americans who have stepped forward to serve the country," Obama said. "We should be celebrating their willingness to step forward and show such courage ... especially when we are fighting two wars.
Obama said it was no secret "our progress may be taking longer than we like." He followed this by asking supporters to trust his administration's course.
"I appreciate that many of you don't believe progress has come fast enough," Obama said. "Do not doubt the direction we are heading and the destination we will reach."
Advocating for a timeline
Some advocates said they already have heard Obama's promises — they just want to hear a timeline. Cleve Jones, a pioneer activist and creator of the AIDS Memorial Quilt, said Obama delivered a brilliant speech, but added "it lacked the answer to our most pressing question, which is when."
"He repeated his promises that he's made to us before, but he did not indicate when he would accomplish these goals and we've been waiting for a while now."
Obama also called on Congress to repeal the Defense Of Marriage Act, which limits how state, local and federal bodies can recognize partnerships and determine benefits. He also called for a law to extend benefits to domestic partners.
He expressed strong support for the Human Rights Campaign agenda — ending discrimination against gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people — but stopped short of laying out a detailed plan for how to get there.
"My expectation is that when you look back on these years you will look back and see a time when we put a stop against discrimination ... whether in the office or the battlefield," Obama said.
Focusing on war, economy
Obama's political energies are focused on managing two wars, the economic crisis and his attempt to reform the health care system.
Ignorant West
Overview
The United States has the highest teen pregnancy rate in the industrialized world. The Center for Disease control says that one-third of girls get pregnant before the age of 20. Teenpregnancy.org, a site managed by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, states that there are "750,000 teen pregnancies annually. Eight in ten of these pregnancies are unintended and 81 percent are to unmarried teens."
Educating teenagers about contraception makes them more likely to use contraception when they begin having sex, but it doesn't lower the age at first intercourse. Why? Probably because the decision where and with whom to become sexually active is a very complicated one, and may be rooted in family, peers, religion, the media and individual personality factors.
Facts on Teen Pregnancy:
• Teenage mothers are more likely to drop out of high school
• Be and remain single parents
• Score lower in math and reading into adolescence
Prevention
If you are a teen thinking about having sex, the best way to prevent an unwanted pregnancy is to educate yourself about different forms of contraceptive. The Public Health Agency of Canada states that 25 percent of young women who have intercourse without using a method of birth control will become pregnant within one month.
If you are a parent, it is important to talk to your teen about sex .
Treatment
If you or your teen becomes pregnant there are several resources that can help. Make sure you see your physician if you have any questions about pregnancy or contraceptives.
Read more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/12504-te.../#ixzz0r6Yx2HEy
The United States has the highest teen pregnancy rate in the industrialized world. The Center for Disease control says that one-third of girls get pregnant before the age of 20. Teenpregnancy.org, a site managed by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, states that there are "750,000 teen pregnancies annually. Eight in ten of these pregnancies are unintended and 81 percent are to unmarried teens."
Educating teenagers about contraception makes them more likely to use contraception when they begin having sex, but it doesn't lower the age at first intercourse. Why? Probably because the decision where and with whom to become sexually active is a very complicated one, and may be rooted in family, peers, religion, the media and individual personality factors.
Facts on Teen Pregnancy:
• Teenage mothers are more likely to drop out of high school
• Be and remain single parents
• Score lower in math and reading into adolescence
Prevention
If you are a teen thinking about having sex, the best way to prevent an unwanted pregnancy is to educate yourself about different forms of contraceptive. The Public Health Agency of Canada states that 25 percent of young women who have intercourse without using a method of birth control will become pregnant within one month.
If you are a parent, it is important to talk to your teen about sex .
Treatment
If you or your teen becomes pregnant there are several resources that can help. Make sure you see your physician if you have any questions about pregnancy or contraceptives.
Read more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/12504-te.../#ixzz0r6Yx2HEy
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Why Men Fall Asleep After Sex
Seven things most men don’t know about their sexual health.
By Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen for MSN Health & Fitness
Sex and sleep
According to Dr. Billy Goldberg, co-author of Why Do Men Fall Asleep After Sex?, there is little direct evidence explaining why men fall asleep. However, the chemicals oxytocin, prolactin, gamma amino butyric acid (GABA) and other hormones all contribute to “that roll-over-and-snore feeling” because they facilitate sleep.
“A man’s body chemistry changes after orgasm. The biochemical prolactin is released, physically altering his body and making him very tired,” says Dr. David McKenzie, a sex therapist in Vancouver, Canada.
Further, exertion during sex and after climax depletes the muscles of energy-producing glycogen, which leads to sleepiness. Since men have more muscle mass than women, they’re generally sleepier after sex.
Men’s libido goes up and down
Think PMS is only for women? Think again. Your monthly peaks and valleys are triggered by changes in testosterone that affect your mood, libido, energy level, beard growth and sperm count.
According to research by naturopathic physician Dr. Marcus Laux, men have more energy, a greater sense of well being, lower body weight and less need for sleep during the peak of their cycle. The valleys bring apathy, indifference and the tendency to magnify small problems into big ones.
“If you keep track of your personal cycles, whether it’s shifts in energy levels, mood or sex drive, you can anticipate changes,” says Laux. “Then, you can take advantage of the times you’re at your prime and better cope when you’re not feeling your best.”
Your penis is a barometer of overall health
Dr. Mehmet Oz, co-author of You: The Owner’s Manual, calls it your “dipstick” because it reveals the health of your other body parts. The physical mechanisms that send blood to your brain, heart and kidneys also inflate your penis. If it’s not standing tall, you may have arterial problems.
“A man’s lack of interest in sex is a big red flag that something is out of balance. Up to 25 percent of men have a low-to-no sex drive,” says Dr. Laux. “It could be even higher, as men don't talk about low libido.”
The possible causes of restricted blood flow include diabetes, endocrine disorders, heart and vascular problems or kidney diseases. “But,” says Laux, “don't rule out fatigue, psychological factors, relationship issues, poor nutrition, insomnia or lack of exercise.”
Disrupted sleep decreases erections
If you’re struggling with obstructive sleep apnea (OSA), you’re at risk for sexual dysfunction. OSA is a sleep disorder that affects 18 million Americans—many of whom go undiagnosed—and causes sufferers to stop breathing dozens of times per hour.
OSA disrupts rapid-eye-movement (REM) sleep, which is when men routinely experience erections. Decreased REM sleep means fewer REM erections, which affects sexual health. “It’s possible that men need to experience REM erections in order to maintain optimal sexual functioning,” says Dr. Charles Atwood, associate director of the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center's Sleep Medicine Center.
“If you have erectile dysfunction, you should get tested for OSA,” he advises. “Men who are diagnosed and treated for OSA often see an improvement in sexual functioning.”
Eco-friendly transportation could damage your testicles
Whether you’re bicycling to reduce your carbon footprint, save money on gas or get fit, make sure you’re cushioned properly. Cycling doesn’t cause male infertility, but it can lead to testicular damage, impaired sperm functioning and erectile problems. Urological surgeon Vinod Nargund from St. Bartholomew’s and Homerton Hospitals in London found that mountain bikers are more affected than road cyclists.
Dr. Nargund lists the potential problems of prolonged cycling: abrasions, chafing, damaged hair follicles and bruising. Sweating may cause skin problems and a general soreness.
Symptoms to watch for include genital numbness, erection problems and skin irritations. To stay healthy, wear shorts with protective padding. Make sure your seat is also padded, and adjust its position so it doesn’t put pressure on your groin.
Varicocele can cause male infertility
Infertility affects one in six couples, and male factors contribute to at least half of all cases. According to the Center of Reproductive Medicine at Cornell University, the most common identifiable cause of male infertility is varicocele, or enlarged veins in the scrotum. Another possibility is a blockage in the reproductive tract.
Simply being older also affects your fertility. Recent research from the Eylau Centre for Assisted Reproduction in France shows a connection between men over age 35, lower pregnancy rates and higher miscarriage rates. Keep your sperm strong by eating nutritiously, exercising regularly and decreasing your stress level.
Big news
An average penis length of 5 erect and 3 flaccid inches is normal for men—that’s significantly smaller than what most men think is normal.
“Generally, every man [and woman] believes the ultimate in sexiness and masculinity is to have a larger-than-average penis,” says sexologist Dr. Trina Read. “The fact is, men with large penises often find it difficult to find a partner who is comfortable having intercourse and giving oral sex.”
During intercourse, penis size has little to do with partner satisfaction. Most of the sensitive nerve endings are concentrated close to a woman’s vaginal opening—which means a penis of any size can be highly pleasurable.
“What most women really want is technique,” says Dr. Read. The upside? A man who masters his technique in bed may get away with falling asleep right after sex.
By Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen for MSN Health & Fitness
Sex and sleep
According to Dr. Billy Goldberg, co-author of Why Do Men Fall Asleep After Sex?, there is little direct evidence explaining why men fall asleep. However, the chemicals oxytocin, prolactin, gamma amino butyric acid (GABA) and other hormones all contribute to “that roll-over-and-snore feeling” because they facilitate sleep.
“A man’s body chemistry changes after orgasm. The biochemical prolactin is released, physically altering his body and making him very tired,” says Dr. David McKenzie, a sex therapist in Vancouver, Canada.
Further, exertion during sex and after climax depletes the muscles of energy-producing glycogen, which leads to sleepiness. Since men have more muscle mass than women, they’re generally sleepier after sex.
Men’s libido goes up and down
Think PMS is only for women? Think again. Your monthly peaks and valleys are triggered by changes in testosterone that affect your mood, libido, energy level, beard growth and sperm count.
According to research by naturopathic physician Dr. Marcus Laux, men have more energy, a greater sense of well being, lower body weight and less need for sleep during the peak of their cycle. The valleys bring apathy, indifference and the tendency to magnify small problems into big ones.
“If you keep track of your personal cycles, whether it’s shifts in energy levels, mood or sex drive, you can anticipate changes,” says Laux. “Then, you can take advantage of the times you’re at your prime and better cope when you’re not feeling your best.”
Your penis is a barometer of overall health
Dr. Mehmet Oz, co-author of You: The Owner’s Manual, calls it your “dipstick” because it reveals the health of your other body parts. The physical mechanisms that send blood to your brain, heart and kidneys also inflate your penis. If it’s not standing tall, you may have arterial problems.
“A man’s lack of interest in sex is a big red flag that something is out of balance. Up to 25 percent of men have a low-to-no sex drive,” says Dr. Laux. “It could be even higher, as men don't talk about low libido.”
The possible causes of restricted blood flow include diabetes, endocrine disorders, heart and vascular problems or kidney diseases. “But,” says Laux, “don't rule out fatigue, psychological factors, relationship issues, poor nutrition, insomnia or lack of exercise.”
Disrupted sleep decreases erections
If you’re struggling with obstructive sleep apnea (OSA), you’re at risk for sexual dysfunction. OSA is a sleep disorder that affects 18 million Americans—many of whom go undiagnosed—and causes sufferers to stop breathing dozens of times per hour.
OSA disrupts rapid-eye-movement (REM) sleep, which is when men routinely experience erections. Decreased REM sleep means fewer REM erections, which affects sexual health. “It’s possible that men need to experience REM erections in order to maintain optimal sexual functioning,” says Dr. Charles Atwood, associate director of the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center's Sleep Medicine Center.
“If you have erectile dysfunction, you should get tested for OSA,” he advises. “Men who are diagnosed and treated for OSA often see an improvement in sexual functioning.”
Eco-friendly transportation could damage your testicles
Whether you’re bicycling to reduce your carbon footprint, save money on gas or get fit, make sure you’re cushioned properly. Cycling doesn’t cause male infertility, but it can lead to testicular damage, impaired sperm functioning and erectile problems. Urological surgeon Vinod Nargund from St. Bartholomew’s and Homerton Hospitals in London found that mountain bikers are more affected than road cyclists.
Dr. Nargund lists the potential problems of prolonged cycling: abrasions, chafing, damaged hair follicles and bruising. Sweating may cause skin problems and a general soreness.
Symptoms to watch for include genital numbness, erection problems and skin irritations. To stay healthy, wear shorts with protective padding. Make sure your seat is also padded, and adjust its position so it doesn’t put pressure on your groin.
Varicocele can cause male infertility
Infertility affects one in six couples, and male factors contribute to at least half of all cases. According to the Center of Reproductive Medicine at Cornell University, the most common identifiable cause of male infertility is varicocele, or enlarged veins in the scrotum. Another possibility is a blockage in the reproductive tract.
Simply being older also affects your fertility. Recent research from the Eylau Centre for Assisted Reproduction in France shows a connection between men over age 35, lower pregnancy rates and higher miscarriage rates. Keep your sperm strong by eating nutritiously, exercising regularly and decreasing your stress level.
Big news
An average penis length of 5 erect and 3 flaccid inches is normal for men—that’s significantly smaller than what most men think is normal.
“Generally, every man [and woman] believes the ultimate in sexiness and masculinity is to have a larger-than-average penis,” says sexologist Dr. Trina Read. “The fact is, men with large penises often find it difficult to find a partner who is comfortable having intercourse and giving oral sex.”
During intercourse, penis size has little to do with partner satisfaction. Most of the sensitive nerve endings are concentrated close to a woman’s vaginal opening—which means a penis of any size can be highly pleasurable.
“What most women really want is technique,” says Dr. Read. The upside? A man who masters his technique in bed may get away with falling asleep right after sex.
The snow white phenomenon
By: May Rostom
I was looking at my baby pictures and wasn't really surprised to see me in the "princess" dress, you know the puffy pink dress we were all forced to wear to weddings or fancy events.
As usual my mind started to drift, are we being fed the wrong information since our childhood? My mum told me that whenever I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up I'd always reply Barbie.
She was my idol; the girly airhead, bleach blond hair, perfect sports car, hot husband and sexy outfits! As I grew up I never met any of these criteria.
As I observed many of the girls around me I noticed they all shared pretty much the same interests , a tanned tall handsome prince (or rich will be just as good) with a white English horse (now exchanged for an also English Jaguar) that comes from a long line of kings and queens (nowadays traded for doctors).
Did watching too many cartoons, mess with our expectations? Do we expect to meet Mr. Right at the ball (aka our best friends wedding)?
Will Losing a slipper, or kissing a frog make it happen?! What about our Middle Eastern background which most of the time either prevents us from going to the ball in the first place or leaving the party early cause "you don’t want people to talk".
Assuming we did go and actually stayed after 12, will we be happy if we lose that slipper or sweat it out cause it cost $200? And you know the saying "you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your handsome prince"?
What if there's no prince and all there is are just frogs? What if Mr. Right couldn’t make it to the ball because he had work to finish or what if he did show up but forgot to shave or brush his hair?
Will you still wait for a better opportunity to pop up or will you take him for what he is and what he'll be? Are we hooked up on happy endings, princess gowns, castles and prince charming that we can't accept reality anymore?
Is it even possible to love at first sight? Some people chase after loved ones for years and can't seem to get the job done! Will snow white always marry her prince?
Not if he's already taken or he has some fear of commitment. How come snow white didn’t fall for one of these dwarfs, the little angels that put a roof over her head, gave her food and shelter?
Who said ideal love was a handsome prince that came from a royal family or a gorgeous size zero princess who lived in a white castle?
Why do we always fall for the wrong guy and refuse to look right in front of us?
Is it because Disney gave us all these unrealistic expectations and a false image of how things should be like?
And why didn’t anyone warn us before hand! At least when a boy grabs a toy off the shelf its usually something that exists like a car or a tool box, maybe in the near future the toy industry should manufacture little blow dryers , tweezers and pimple cream!
As these questions remain unanswered all I can think of is when did we stop appreciating what we have and start to think that the grass is always greener on the other side?
We simply can’t enjoy the little gestures any more because compared to what we've seen on TV they're nothing. We can't always expect things to be perfect because in real life they aren’t; they're the closest thing to perfect.
So don’t wait for your leg to curl on your first kiss, wake up and look around this is as good as it gets so grab it and make the best out of it!
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Whom to blame ???
Boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage.
They were a Loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes.
When the boy was Around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle Open.
He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep It in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot The matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by Its colour and drank it all.
It happened to be a poisonous medicine Meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother Hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She Was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child ,
He looked at his wife and uttered just five words.
QUESTIONS:
1. What were the five words?
2. What is the implication of this story?
ANSWER :
The husband just said "I am with you Darling"
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive Behaviour.
The Child is dead. He can never be brought back to life.
There is no point In finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to Keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.
No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she Needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would Be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles Begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, Unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are Actually not as difficult as you think.
MORAL OF THE STORY
Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, Whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this Way we miss out some warmth in human relationship.
They were a Loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes.
When the boy was Around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle Open.
He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep It in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot The matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by Its colour and drank it all.
It happened to be a poisonous medicine Meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother Hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She Was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child ,
He looked at his wife and uttered just five words.
QUESTIONS:
1. What were the five words?
2. What is the implication of this story?
ANSWER :
The husband just said "I am with you Darling"
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive Behaviour.
The Child is dead. He can never be brought back to life.
There is no point In finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to Keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.
No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she Needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would Be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles Begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, Unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are Actually not as difficult as you think.
MORAL OF THE STORY
Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, Whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this Way we miss out some warmth in human relationship.
What To Do When You Catch Your Boyfriend Or Girlfriend Cheating
Are you in a serious romantic relationship? If you are, is your relationship defined as being boyfriend and girlfriend? If it is, you may still be curious about cheating. Despite the fact that you may not be married, it doesn?t mean that a cheating partner will not hurt.
If you catch your boyfriend or girlfriend cheating, you may be curious as to what you should do. After all, a quick internet search online will mostly produce results for married couples. As a reminder, just because you are not married, it doesn?t have to mean that you have to put up with a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you learn that you boyfriend or girlfriend has been cheating, the first thing that you will want to do is take a step back. You will want to fully think the situation through. Catching a cheating spouse often results in impulsive actions. It is expected, but it can be harmful. As for what you should do when you do learn about the cheating, please continue reading on.
If you actually catch your boyfriend or girlfriend in the act, like if you see them having sex, leave the room. In fact, you should do so immediately. Verifying an affair is one thing, but staying the room, even just to argue, is not advised. Vacate the premise immediately, unless of course it is your own home. This gives you time to think about what you saw and what your actions should be, without having to see half naked bodies sitting in front of you.
Be sure to think about what you saw or what you learned. If you are seriously considering ending your relationship, do not decide right away. Instead, ask your boyfriend or girlfriend for a little bit of time apart. This is ideal if you do not live together. If you do live together, ask that your cheating partner stays with friends or family members. At the very least, have them sleep in another room.
Another action that you can take is to breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend. As previously stated, you may not want to do this right away, especially if you are in a long-term relationship. With that in mind, be sure to remember that many men and women who cheat often do so again and again. Do you really want to always be wondering if your boyfriend or girlfriend is where they say they are?
If you are interested in trying to save your relationship, you should recommend counseling to your cheating partner. Although counseling is often associated with marriage, couples counseling is also available and can be helpful as well. Your chances of saving your relationship are better if you are older, as opposed to being a teenager, or you have been in a long-term relationship. For many, long-term relationships are worth saving.
As for what you will never want to do, never resort to violence. When placed in situations, such as a finding a cheating spouse, both men and women have the ability to become violent. This violence may be physical, verbal, or a combination of them both. Whatever you do, do not resort to violence, as it often makes the situation much worse than it needs to be.
As you can see, there are a number of different ways that you can go about dealing with a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend. Whichever approach you do take, just be sure to follow your heart, but use your best judgment at the same time.
If you catch your boyfriend or girlfriend cheating, you may be curious as to what you should do. After all, a quick internet search online will mostly produce results for married couples. As a reminder, just because you are not married, it doesn?t have to mean that you have to put up with a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you learn that you boyfriend or girlfriend has been cheating, the first thing that you will want to do is take a step back. You will want to fully think the situation through. Catching a cheating spouse often results in impulsive actions. It is expected, but it can be harmful. As for what you should do when you do learn about the cheating, please continue reading on.
If you actually catch your boyfriend or girlfriend in the act, like if you see them having sex, leave the room. In fact, you should do so immediately. Verifying an affair is one thing, but staying the room, even just to argue, is not advised. Vacate the premise immediately, unless of course it is your own home. This gives you time to think about what you saw and what your actions should be, without having to see half naked bodies sitting in front of you.
Be sure to think about what you saw or what you learned. If you are seriously considering ending your relationship, do not decide right away. Instead, ask your boyfriend or girlfriend for a little bit of time apart. This is ideal if you do not live together. If you do live together, ask that your cheating partner stays with friends or family members. At the very least, have them sleep in another room.
Another action that you can take is to breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend. As previously stated, you may not want to do this right away, especially if you are in a long-term relationship. With that in mind, be sure to remember that many men and women who cheat often do so again and again. Do you really want to always be wondering if your boyfriend or girlfriend is where they say they are?
If you are interested in trying to save your relationship, you should recommend counseling to your cheating partner. Although counseling is often associated with marriage, couples counseling is also available and can be helpful as well. Your chances of saving your relationship are better if you are older, as opposed to being a teenager, or you have been in a long-term relationship. For many, long-term relationships are worth saving.
As for what you will never want to do, never resort to violence. When placed in situations, such as a finding a cheating spouse, both men and women have the ability to become violent. This violence may be physical, verbal, or a combination of them both. Whatever you do, do not resort to violence, as it often makes the situation much worse than it needs to be.
As you can see, there are a number of different ways that you can go about dealing with a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend. Whichever approach you do take, just be sure to follow your heart, but use your best judgment at the same time.
Five Signs Of A Cheating Boyfriend
Are you a teenager who is in a serious relationship? If you are, there may come a point in time when you think that your boyfriend is cheating on you. As often as you may hear an adult say ?you are young, you will find love again,? you may still want to have concrete proof that your boyfriend is cheating on you. After all, if love is what you feel, you may be unsure about ending the relationship.
Although getting concrete proof that shows that your boyfriend is cheating on you can be difficult to do, there are still a number of signs that you will want to look for. These signs, five of which are outlined below, can make it easier for you to determine whether or not your teenage boyfriend is cheating on you.
1 He Stops Hanging Out With You
If your boyfriend stops hanging out with you or if he stops inviting you to parties or social outings with friends, there is a good chance that he is cheating on you. As for why you may no longer be invited to social events with him, he is likely worried that his friends will talk. Because, chances are his close friends already know that he is cheating on you. In fact, do his friends treat you any differently?
2 He Has Changed His Appearance
Has your boyfriend starting changing his appearance? Has he started taking better care of himself? At the high school level, a big change in appearance should include hairstyles or clothes. Chances are if your boyfriend has undergone a sudden appearance change, there is someone who he is trying to impress. Unfortunately, you may not be that someone.
3 A Rude Attitude
Since many cheaters feel guilty about their actions, they often try to lessen that guilt. One of the many ways that a boyfriend does this is by being rude to you. He may accuse you of cheating on him or he may regularly find even the smallest reasons for picking an argument. This is because some cheaters justify their behavior by claiming that their girlfriends deserved to be cheated on.
4 You Can?t Get In Touch With Him
Many boyfriends and girlfriends communicate through cell phone calls, text messages, and emails. If this is how you and your boyfriend communicated in the past, have you suddenly noticed a change? If you find it harder to get hold of your boyfriend, he might be cheating on you. After all, why would he always answer your phone calls, text messages, or emails before, but not now?
5 You Are Hearing Rumors
If one thing is for sure it is that high school students like to gossip. As previously stated, your boyfriends? friends likely already know that he is cheating on you. They may talk to their other friends or their own girlfriends. This is likely to start rumors. Although not all rumors you hear at school are true, you may want to listen carefully.
The above mentioned signs are just a few of the many that your boyfriend may be cheating on you. If you do find out that your boyfriend is cheating on you, it may be a wise idea to break off the relationship. If you are having sex with your boyfriend, his cheating ways could put you at risk for developing harmful and painful sexually transmitted diseases.
Although getting concrete proof that shows that your boyfriend is cheating on you can be difficult to do, there are still a number of signs that you will want to look for. These signs, five of which are outlined below, can make it easier for you to determine whether or not your teenage boyfriend is cheating on you.
1 He Stops Hanging Out With You
If your boyfriend stops hanging out with you or if he stops inviting you to parties or social outings with friends, there is a good chance that he is cheating on you. As for why you may no longer be invited to social events with him, he is likely worried that his friends will talk. Because, chances are his close friends already know that he is cheating on you. In fact, do his friends treat you any differently?
2 He Has Changed His Appearance
Has your boyfriend starting changing his appearance? Has he started taking better care of himself? At the high school level, a big change in appearance should include hairstyles or clothes. Chances are if your boyfriend has undergone a sudden appearance change, there is someone who he is trying to impress. Unfortunately, you may not be that someone.
3 A Rude Attitude
Since many cheaters feel guilty about their actions, they often try to lessen that guilt. One of the many ways that a boyfriend does this is by being rude to you. He may accuse you of cheating on him or he may regularly find even the smallest reasons for picking an argument. This is because some cheaters justify their behavior by claiming that their girlfriends deserved to be cheated on.
4 You Can?t Get In Touch With Him
Many boyfriends and girlfriends communicate through cell phone calls, text messages, and emails. If this is how you and your boyfriend communicated in the past, have you suddenly noticed a change? If you find it harder to get hold of your boyfriend, he might be cheating on you. After all, why would he always answer your phone calls, text messages, or emails before, but not now?
5 You Are Hearing Rumors
If one thing is for sure it is that high school students like to gossip. As previously stated, your boyfriends? friends likely already know that he is cheating on you. They may talk to their other friends or their own girlfriends. This is likely to start rumors. Although not all rumors you hear at school are true, you may want to listen carefully.
The above mentioned signs are just a few of the many that your boyfriend may be cheating on you. If you do find out that your boyfriend is cheating on you, it may be a wise idea to break off the relationship. If you are having sex with your boyfriend, his cheating ways could put you at risk for developing harmful and painful sexually transmitted diseases.
How To Tell If A Girl Really Likes U 3 Simple Ways To Know?
Relationships are one of the most frustrating aspects of human existence. It seems like some kind of cosmic joke that men and women are so different in every way, yet we?re supposed to pair up successfully. It can seem impossible to tell what the opposite sex is thinking and how we can respond. Unfortunately, many men depend on an ill-informed set of criteria to decode what they think women want. Eyelash batting is a sure sigh if you?re into the middle-school set. What you should be keeping your eyes peeled for is a combination of positives and negatives. Here?s some insight to how real women show there interest, or lack of.
1- Body Language
This is a big one. There?s a lot of information to be gathered here. It will tell you if she?s interested, and it can tell you if she?s not. . Pay attention to how she?s sitting. Are her legs crossed toward you or away from you? If they?re toward you, then chat with her; if they?re away, then you should go away too. If she?s closed off, meaning she?s physically withdraw from you: turns away, folds her arms, avoids eye contact, she?s telling you to keep moving. If you see the opposite behaviors, have a seat.
2- The eyes have it
If her body language says yes, then you?re probably close enough to check out her eyes. Our pupils dilate when we look at something we desire. There?s no way to fake it either way. It?s basic biology.
3- Get a clue
If you?re not catching the nonverbals she?s throwing out, listen to the words that are coming out of her mouth. There are certain topics a woman will never broach with a man she?d like to get to know better, and some things she?s only say if she?s into you:
* Exes - If she talks about other guys, even ex boyfriends, she?s saying there?s no room for you.
* Eternity ? If she goes over the top about how she?s itching to tie the knot, she?s either got issues you don?t want to get involved with or she wants rid of you.
It?s a fail proof way to run a new guy off. The same goes for any degree of biological clock ticking.
*Interrogation If she?s interested, she?ll ask. It?s that simple. No woman is going to ask get-to-know-you-type questions to a man she doesn?t want to know about. If she?s asking about your job, your family, your extra curricular activities, treat it like a job interview. You are being evaluated for compatibility and boyfriend potential.
So, forget everything you think you know about hair twirling and giggling. Grown women don?t behave that way. Dating can be tricky, especially at the start, but there?s no need to complicate things by trying to play it like a guessing game. Responding to simple social cues will save a lot of confusion for all involved. Uncomplicated relationship doesn?t have to be an oxymoron.
1- Body Language
This is a big one. There?s a lot of information to be gathered here. It will tell you if she?s interested, and it can tell you if she?s not. . Pay attention to how she?s sitting. Are her legs crossed toward you or away from you? If they?re toward you, then chat with her; if they?re away, then you should go away too. If she?s closed off, meaning she?s physically withdraw from you: turns away, folds her arms, avoids eye contact, she?s telling you to keep moving. If you see the opposite behaviors, have a seat.
2- The eyes have it
If her body language says yes, then you?re probably close enough to check out her eyes. Our pupils dilate when we look at something we desire. There?s no way to fake it either way. It?s basic biology.
3- Get a clue
If you?re not catching the nonverbals she?s throwing out, listen to the words that are coming out of her mouth. There are certain topics a woman will never broach with a man she?d like to get to know better, and some things she?s only say if she?s into you:
* Exes - If she talks about other guys, even ex boyfriends, she?s saying there?s no room for you.
* Eternity ? If she goes over the top about how she?s itching to tie the knot, she?s either got issues you don?t want to get involved with or she wants rid of you.
It?s a fail proof way to run a new guy off. The same goes for any degree of biological clock ticking.
*Interrogation If she?s interested, she?ll ask. It?s that simple. No woman is going to ask get-to-know-you-type questions to a man she doesn?t want to know about. If she?s asking about your job, your family, your extra curricular activities, treat it like a job interview. You are being evaluated for compatibility and boyfriend potential.
So, forget everything you think you know about hair twirling and giggling. Grown women don?t behave that way. Dating can be tricky, especially at the start, but there?s no need to complicate things by trying to play it like a guessing game. Responding to simple social cues will save a lot of confusion for all involved. Uncomplicated relationship doesn?t have to be an oxymoron.
Tips For Forming Better Relationships
With very less real interaction in the bedroom and with rising interaction in boardrooms, a marriage becomes a bond of convenience.
Every marriage experiences ennui once in a while. The foundation of every relationship, especially marriage is friendship. And the foundation of every friendship is acceptance. When we're in the company of friends, we tend to throw up our feet and let our hair down. While most couples take the liberty of becoming complacent, we must also remember to create an atmosphere where our partners also have the liberty to be on their own.
Listening to spouse's woes can certainly create a strong bond. Even if a spouse is lamenting over one's own parent's behavior, listening and understanding can cement the bond. Being indebted to one's parents doesn't mean we refuse to see them in the light our partners perceive them. Our parents have walked a great length along with us and the rest of the journey has to be completed with our partner.
Pitching in daily affairs like caring for toddlers, like taking turns in changing nappies, looking after schoolwork of grown children, attending to convalescing in-laws, joking with a spouse's siblings or friends are things that can forge a stronger bond.
Joining in dinnertime conversations, discussing office politics, world affairs etc can also create a friendship. After all listening and conversation are the foundations of any good friendship. Here, non-judgmental listening is what is needed.
Like the way we never leave anything under the carpet, nothing in a relationship should be kept secret. Past issues, like hurts, insecurities, lies, etc should be brought out into the open and discussed. Couples must vow never to carry the previous day's hurts into a new day. Every day is a new day and yesterday's hurts should never mar today.
While it's easy to criticize a spouse, the best solution is to find a solution for a problem. While complaining, give a solution, an option too. Let it sound like a brainstorming session at work. And once in a while, it's wise to let the spouse let off steam. However, ensure that each partner gets to let off steam.
Communication is the keyword. Marriage requires an investment too. Exactly the way any friendship needs. Communicating appreciation, anger, joy etc can fortify a marriage. Dating each other without the children can be fun and revive your romance.
Like a plant that requires water, sunlight, soil, pruning and weeding, your marriage needs all these too. Marriage is the soil and love is the manure on which the plant flourishes. Sex is the regular watering that is essential for the plant to grow. The warmth of your appreciation cannot be underestimated. When you weed out, remember to weed out the third party from your marriage that includes your own parents and unwanted rivals. And when you prune, see that you don't uproot, and remember pruning always heralds new and luxuriant growth.
Every marriage experiences ennui once in a while. The foundation of every relationship, especially marriage is friendship. And the foundation of every friendship is acceptance. When we're in the company of friends, we tend to throw up our feet and let our hair down. While most couples take the liberty of becoming complacent, we must also remember to create an atmosphere where our partners also have the liberty to be on their own.
Listening to spouse's woes can certainly create a strong bond. Even if a spouse is lamenting over one's own parent's behavior, listening and understanding can cement the bond. Being indebted to one's parents doesn't mean we refuse to see them in the light our partners perceive them. Our parents have walked a great length along with us and the rest of the journey has to be completed with our partner.
Pitching in daily affairs like caring for toddlers, like taking turns in changing nappies, looking after schoolwork of grown children, attending to convalescing in-laws, joking with a spouse's siblings or friends are things that can forge a stronger bond.
Joining in dinnertime conversations, discussing office politics, world affairs etc can also create a friendship. After all listening and conversation are the foundations of any good friendship. Here, non-judgmental listening is what is needed.
Like the way we never leave anything under the carpet, nothing in a relationship should be kept secret. Past issues, like hurts, insecurities, lies, etc should be brought out into the open and discussed. Couples must vow never to carry the previous day's hurts into a new day. Every day is a new day and yesterday's hurts should never mar today.
While it's easy to criticize a spouse, the best solution is to find a solution for a problem. While complaining, give a solution, an option too. Let it sound like a brainstorming session at work. And once in a while, it's wise to let the spouse let off steam. However, ensure that each partner gets to let off steam.
Communication is the keyword. Marriage requires an investment too. Exactly the way any friendship needs. Communicating appreciation, anger, joy etc can fortify a marriage. Dating each other without the children can be fun and revive your romance.
Like a plant that requires water, sunlight, soil, pruning and weeding, your marriage needs all these too. Marriage is the soil and love is the manure on which the plant flourishes. Sex is the regular watering that is essential for the plant to grow. The warmth of your appreciation cannot be underestimated. When you weed out, remember to weed out the third party from your marriage that includes your own parents and unwanted rivals. And when you prune, see that you don't uproot, and remember pruning always heralds new and luxuriant growth.
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
107-Year-Old Chinese Woman Looking for Husband
A Chinese woman who was afraid to get married when she was young, is now 107 and looking for a first-time husband.
Wang Guiying, a 107-year-old Chinese woman, is worried that she has become a burden to her “aged” nephews and nieces ever since she broke her leg at the age of 102, when she had to stop doing certain house chores, Australia’s News reported.
- I am 107 years old and have not been married. What will happen if I don’t hurry up and fund a husband – the wannabe bride told the local media.
Childhood fears
Born in the Guizhou province into a family of salt tradesmen, Ms. Wang grew up watching scenes of domestic violence in her own and neighbouring houses. With such marriage conditions and “feminising” rituals, such as decreasing the size of women’s feet, she did not even want to consider getting married.
Even after the deaths of her father, mother and elder sister, she refused to get married. She left for the countryside and worked in agriculture until the age of 74 when she moved in with her nephews in the town of Chongqing. But as all her nieces and nephews are well over 60 now, Ms. Wang decided the time has come for her to get married. Local officials will also help her search for a suitable groom
60 Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love, —Guaranteed—
1- Make her feel secure- don’t joke about divorcing her, this will put a hole in your marriage.
2- Always greet her whenever you arrive
3- Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her- In this vessel there is a lot of goodness so treat her in a gentle manner.
4- Advice her in privacy and the best timing. Don’t advice her in the presence of others, it can be a type of humility
5- Be generous with her
6- Move out of your way for her, when she’s coming to sit get up and let her sit on your seat tell her: ‘here honey sit I warmed up the seat for you’
7- Avoid anger.
8- Look good for her and smell great.
9- Don’t be rigid, you will be broken- just because you are a man doesn’t mean you have to be harsh hearted
10- Be a good listener
11- Say yes for flattering and no for arguing.
12- Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear.
13- Surprise her secretly. Ex: Bring her a watermelon when it’s not the season of watermelons. Pick and choose in surprising her, be an artist in surprising her pleasantly
14- Preserve the tongue
15- Accept her shortcomings/ everyone has one
16- Show your appreciation to her
17- Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relations
18- Speak topics of her interest.
19- Speak of her goodness in the presence of others
20- Shower her with gifts. give gifts and you’ll love each other’ MML It’s doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the gift is, it’s the thought that counts!
21- Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Ex: Buy her ticket to a vacation cruise or something that she will enjoy.
22- Think good of her-
23- Ignore some of the words/actions you don’t like
24- Add a drop of patience- It can go a long way- i.e: at her time of pregnancy, menses…etc
25- Expect and respect her jealousy.
26- Be humble
27- Don’t put a price on her happiness.
28- Help her around household chores
29- You can’t force her to love her in laws, but help her respect and love your parents.
30- Show her that she is an ideal wife; each and every wife is an ideal wife in many ways, so make her feel that.
31- Make dua’a for her and always remember her in your dua’as
32- Leave her past
33- Don’t show her that you are doing favors by doing your duties
34- ****aan/Satan is your enemy NOT your wife!
35- When eating, don’t only feed yourself, feed her TOO! - Not only does it go to the stomach but to the heart too.
36- Look at her as a precious pearl, treat her and take care of her like a precious pearl
37- Speaking of pearlsà show her YOUR pearlsà SMILE! . Don’t put your smile out-of-service when you reach home! Don’t be rigid.
38- Don’t hold grudges. Deal with the littlest matters and don’t ignore them, it will build up and will create a wall between you and your wife.
39- Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40- Respect her thinking; her thinking strengthens you.
41- Help her discover/develop her skills and her success within
42- Respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship- it’s a fragile matter.
43- Help her with the children; it’s not only her job it’s yours too!
44- Complement her!-give her the gifts of the tongues-
45- Don’t be a stranger to her meals, know your wife’s meals, and eat her food.
46- Let her know when you are traveling don’t just disappear, and also let her know about your arrival.
47- When arguments arise, deal with it and don’t run away from it.
48- Don’t share your home secrets with your friends. Keep your privacy, and don’t make it a garage sale.
49- Encourage each other to worship together, listen to a lecture/recitation.-
50- Engrave her rights in your heart and in your conscious
51- Treat her with kindness through happiness and sorrow
52- Don’t jump on your wife like a ball!, in fact polish your love with many kisses- A kiss is a messenger-
53- When disputes happen between you and your wife, don’t go and share it with the whole world.-don’t leave your wounds open for the germs-
54- Show her that you care for her health.
55- Don’t think that you are right all the time!-No one Is perfect but the prophet (saw)-
56- Share you happiness and sorrow with her.
57- Have mercy on her.
58- Be the shoulder she can lean on!
59- Accept her as is, she’s a bent rib so don’t try to straighten it.
*Side note: A dear friend once said: “a bent rib cannot be straightened, and in fact the beauty of it lies within its curve!”
60- Have good intentions for your wife -
2- Always greet her whenever you arrive
3- Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her- In this vessel there is a lot of goodness so treat her in a gentle manner.
4- Advice her in privacy and the best timing. Don’t advice her in the presence of others, it can be a type of humility
5- Be generous with her
6- Move out of your way for her, when she’s coming to sit get up and let her sit on your seat tell her: ‘here honey sit I warmed up the seat for you’
7- Avoid anger.
8- Look good for her and smell great.
9- Don’t be rigid, you will be broken- just because you are a man doesn’t mean you have to be harsh hearted
10- Be a good listener
11- Say yes for flattering and no for arguing.
12- Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear.
13- Surprise her secretly. Ex: Bring her a watermelon when it’s not the season of watermelons. Pick and choose in surprising her, be an artist in surprising her pleasantly
14- Preserve the tongue
15- Accept her shortcomings/ everyone has one
16- Show your appreciation to her
17- Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relations
18- Speak topics of her interest.
19- Speak of her goodness in the presence of others
20- Shower her with gifts. give gifts and you’ll love each other’ MML It’s doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the gift is, it’s the thought that counts!
21- Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Ex: Buy her ticket to a vacation cruise or something that she will enjoy.
22- Think good of her-
23- Ignore some of the words/actions you don’t like
24- Add a drop of patience- It can go a long way- i.e: at her time of pregnancy, menses…etc
25- Expect and respect her jealousy.
26- Be humble
27- Don’t put a price on her happiness.
28- Help her around household chores
29- You can’t force her to love her in laws, but help her respect and love your parents.
30- Show her that she is an ideal wife; each and every wife is an ideal wife in many ways, so make her feel that.
31- Make dua’a for her and always remember her in your dua’as
32- Leave her past
33- Don’t show her that you are doing favors by doing your duties
34- ****aan/Satan is your enemy NOT your wife!
35- When eating, don’t only feed yourself, feed her TOO! - Not only does it go to the stomach but to the heart too.
36- Look at her as a precious pearl, treat her and take care of her like a precious pearl
37- Speaking of pearlsà show her YOUR pearlsà SMILE! . Don’t put your smile out-of-service when you reach home! Don’t be rigid.
38- Don’t hold grudges. Deal with the littlest matters and don’t ignore them, it will build up and will create a wall between you and your wife.
39- Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40- Respect her thinking; her thinking strengthens you.
41- Help her discover/develop her skills and her success within
42- Respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship- it’s a fragile matter.
43- Help her with the children; it’s not only her job it’s yours too!
44- Complement her!-give her the gifts of the tongues-
45- Don’t be a stranger to her meals, know your wife’s meals, and eat her food.
46- Let her know when you are traveling don’t just disappear, and also let her know about your arrival.
47- When arguments arise, deal with it and don’t run away from it.
48- Don’t share your home secrets with your friends. Keep your privacy, and don’t make it a garage sale.
49- Encourage each other to worship together, listen to a lecture/recitation.-
50- Engrave her rights in your heart and in your conscious
51- Treat her with kindness through happiness and sorrow
52- Don’t jump on your wife like a ball!, in fact polish your love with many kisses- A kiss is a messenger-
53- When disputes happen between you and your wife, don’t go and share it with the whole world.-don’t leave your wounds open for the germs-
54- Show her that you care for her health.
55- Don’t think that you are right all the time!-No one Is perfect but the prophet (saw)-
56- Share you happiness and sorrow with her.
57- Have mercy on her.
58- Be the shoulder she can lean on!
59- Accept her as is, she’s a bent rib so don’t try to straighten it.
*Side note: A dear friend once said: “a bent rib cannot be straightened, and in fact the beauty of it lies within its curve!”
60- Have good intentions for your wife -
Orphanage Vs Gay Adoption
The thought was triggered by a tv show on HBO - Same Sex America.
Topic was legalized same sex marriages; some of the couples portrayed had adopted children - these kids ranged from infant to teenager and seemed pretty 'normal' from whatever little I saw about them.
Personally, I thought it was great that they adopted- but the company I was watching the show with disagreed. It got me thinking -- what is the average stance on that? What do you guys think and why?
I just wanna get a feel of what our generation thinks on the subject.
Topic was legalized same sex marriages; some of the couples portrayed had adopted children - these kids ranged from infant to teenager and seemed pretty 'normal' from whatever little I saw about them.
Personally, I thought it was great that they adopted- but the company I was watching the show with disagreed. It got me thinking -- what is the average stance on that? What do you guys think and why?
I just wanna get a feel of what our generation thinks on the subject.
Would you marry for LOVE or MONEY?
Which is more important to you? To live a life without ever wanting for anything or to be with someone you love?
Physical Attraction
How does that come into play within the confines of an Arranged Marriage ?
Everyone says how important it is to have a degree of attraction to the person you want to marry but how can one be physically attracted or even develop any kind of attraction perforce within such a short span of time !
Everyone says how important it is to have a degree of attraction to the person you want to marry but how can one be physically attracted or even develop any kind of attraction perforce within such a short span of time !
40 Ways To Keep Your Husband's Love, —Guaranteed—
1- Make sure you make a new meal every day. No leftovers.
2- Always wear something that "makes him happy" when he gets home.
3- Your husband is your life, make sure you treat him like a god.
4- Don't be a bossy, nagging little witch. It helps no one. Esp you.
5- Be very generous to him. Always make sure he gets the last pizza slice and stuff.
6- Remember his lap is your seat. A quick jump here and there to shower him with kisses works best.
7- Avoid anger.
8- Look good for him and smell great. Clothing is optional!
9- Don’t be rigid, understand he works with idiots all day long and doesn't want to be nagged as soon as he enters the door. Be flexible at all times.
10- Be a good woman, understand he is a bad listener and doesn't care.
11- Accept that is will is law and never argue.
12- Never ever call your husband any gay ass names. He is a man, treat him as such.
13- Surprise him repeatedly, focus on the bed room and the lack of clothing.
14- Use more tongue
15- Accept him shortcomings/ everyone has a few hundred
16- Show that you appreciate him by making sure he is satisfied in all aspects. No need to list them they are common sense.
17- Don't be a ***** to his mom.
18- Don't be a motormouth. Give him some peace and quiet at home as soon as he comes home.
19- Don't ***** about him to your girlfriends
20- Again make sure the bed
21- Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Make the bedroom far more exciting
22- Make sure you think good things of him and then do good things. Actions are better than thoughts esp if they don't involve clothing,
23- Ignore all of the words/actions you don’t like
24- Be more than patient. Be a little pixie.
25- Act jealous. Don't act crazy.
26- Be humble and a freak.
27- Don’t put a price on his happiness.
28- Don't boss him around the house.
29- You better love his mother!
30- Show him how ideal a wife you are in the bed room, kitchen and infront of others (The last two are not sexually oriented you sick sick people).
31- You better pray for him and his family or you will go to hell for being a bad wife.
32- Don't bring his past, even if an ex-girlfriends shows up. That **** is buried. Let it stay there.
33- Don’t demand favours for nothing in return.
34- Learn to compromise. Specifically when you are right.
35- Make food he likes and don't complain about him not dieting and what not. You live only once.
36- He is your husband. Treat him like Romeo, Brad Pitt and Winston Churchill all rolled in to one.
37- Lady on the street - freak in the bed. Words to live by.
38- Don’t hold grudges. No silent treatment. No whining or moaning.
39- Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40- Respect him and his mom. They are all there is in your world.
2- Always wear something that "makes him happy" when he gets home.
3- Your husband is your life, make sure you treat him like a god.
4- Don't be a bossy, nagging little witch. It helps no one. Esp you.
5- Be very generous to him. Always make sure he gets the last pizza slice and stuff.
6- Remember his lap is your seat. A quick jump here and there to shower him with kisses works best.
7- Avoid anger.
8- Look good for him and smell great. Clothing is optional!
9- Don’t be rigid, understand he works with idiots all day long and doesn't want to be nagged as soon as he enters the door. Be flexible at all times.
10- Be a good woman, understand he is a bad listener and doesn't care.
11- Accept that is will is law and never argue.
12- Never ever call your husband any gay ass names. He is a man, treat him as such.
13- Surprise him repeatedly, focus on the bed room and the lack of clothing.
14- Use more tongue
15- Accept him shortcomings/ everyone has a few hundred
16- Show that you appreciate him by making sure he is satisfied in all aspects. No need to list them they are common sense.
17- Don't be a ***** to his mom.
18- Don't be a motormouth. Give him some peace and quiet at home as soon as he comes home.
19- Don't ***** about him to your girlfriends
20- Again make sure the bed
21- Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Make the bedroom far more exciting
22- Make sure you think good things of him and then do good things. Actions are better than thoughts esp if they don't involve clothing,
23- Ignore all of the words/actions you don’t like
24- Be more than patient. Be a little pixie.
25- Act jealous. Don't act crazy.
26- Be humble and a freak.
27- Don’t put a price on his happiness.
28- Don't boss him around the house.
29- You better love his mother!
30- Show him how ideal a wife you are in the bed room, kitchen and infront of others (The last two are not sexually oriented you sick sick people).
31- You better pray for him and his family or you will go to hell for being a bad wife.
32- Don't bring his past, even if an ex-girlfriends shows up. That **** is buried. Let it stay there.
33- Don’t demand favours for nothing in return.
34- Learn to compromise. Specifically when you are right.
35- Make food he likes and don't complain about him not dieting and what not. You live only once.
36- He is your husband. Treat him like Romeo, Brad Pitt and Winston Churchill all rolled in to one.
37- Lady on the street - freak in the bed. Words to live by.
38- Don’t hold grudges. No silent treatment. No whining or moaning.
39- Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40- Respect him and his mom. They are all there is in your world.
Monday, September 28, 2009
The Meaning of Love
The Meaning of Love - Rumi
Both light and shadow
are the dance of Love.
Love has no cause;
it is the astrolabe of God’s secrets.
Lover and Loving are inseparable
and timeless.
Although I may try to describe Love
when I experience it I am speechless.
Although I may try to write about Love
I am rendered helpless;
my pen breaks and the paper slips away
at the ineffable place
where Lover, Loving and Loved are one.
Every moment is made glorious
by the light of Love.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
10 Things Men Can Learn From Women
Lesson No. 1: Emotional quotient
They might call us overtly emotional, but that’s one thing that adds meaning to life. Ace director Kalpana Lajmi says, “Men lack that maternal perspective. They can’t see things the way a woman does, enriching every relationship with depth, a healing touch and compassion. If men learn that, then the relationship between men and women would be quite easy.”
Suchitra Pillai, actor, says, "One thing that men should learn from women is to be more in touch with their emotions. This would include being aware of mood swings the partner faces. It would make questions like ‘Are you upset?’ redundant. Women can teach men by not hiding their own emotions."
Rakhi Sawant, item girl, says, "Women have a lot of emotional strength. They can do a lot that men can’t even dream of. It’s wrongly believed that men are stronger than women. Whenever there is a crisis, it's men get depressed, lose their confidence and approach their lady for comfort.
Lesson No. 2: Think about the other’s pleasure as well
Now, this one goes for men who are obsessed with their own single-minded pursuit of happiness.
Alka Pandey, author, Kamasutra for Women says, “Treating the other as equal becomes all the more important when it comes to your chemistry in bed. Men must understand that a woman’s pleasure is as important as a man’s.”
Lesson No. 3: Endurance
Well, you’ll never tag us as constant cribbers once you learn this art, which we are quite good at.
Singer Shibani Kashyap says, “They might be physically stronger than us, but when it comes to emotional endurance, men still have a long way to go.”
Mehar Bhasin, says, “Men certainly need to learn the ability to be patient in any situation – be it workplace pressure, ego clashes, selfishness, pride, etc. Women take longer to react because they know that men are impulsive. She knows how to be patient in all walks of life. Be it a mother waiting for her child’s results, a wife waiting for her husband to apologise for harsh words, or a girlfriend waiting for a commitment – men need that inner patience to deal with trying situations.”
Lesson No. 4: Respect woman
Guys, you better remember to dish it out otherwise you know where your relationship is heading!
Actress Mahima Choudhary says, “They expect us to respect their clan, while they can’t even respect us. So, this is one lesson men should learn from women, particularly Indian men!”
Lesson No: 5: To multitask & balance
Now, this one’s a hit! Most women would love their men getting into the multitasking groove just like themselves.
Actress Shefali Shah says, “Men can focus on just one subject at a time and that’s so irritating at times. And to add to the irritation they either focus on cricket, work or buddies. So, I think they should learn the art of balancing it well.”
Gurdip Kohli, TV actor, says, "A sense of balance is the biggest quality that a man can pick up from a woman. A man must discover the experience of trying to juggle personal and professional lives. Since I'm married now, I can see how important it is to achieve a balance between your work and home. Unfortunately, men don’t really understand this, so they need to be more efficient at balancing priorities."
Lesson No: 6: Forgive
This otherwise not so emotional breed will suddenly become the worst emotional blackmailers the moment they catch you on the wrong foot. They would either not forgive you and if at all they do, they’ll make you feel guilty forever!
TV actress Tina Parekh says, “The day men learn to forgive and move on, there won’t be any fights between husbands and wives.”
Lesson No. 7: There’s more to sex than just being physical
Well, all the women who have been there and done that would agree that men get into the act for the act’s sake, while a woman gets into the act for sheer togetherness.
Sandhya Mulchandani, author, Indian Erotica says, “Women give their whole self to the experience, while men just consider it a physical thing. So, if men learn to get more generous when it comes to foreplay and let emotions seep in while having sex rather than getting anxious about performance, bedroom relations will be much better.”
Lesson No. 8: Sense of commitment
It won’t be wrong to say that men are almost allergic to commitment. Be it sticking to a job, a partner or for that matter anything, they need a great deal of perseverance to make up their mind.
Playback singer Alka Yagnik says, “Apparently, a man needs to learn everything from a woman – with commitment topping the list. Women exhibit a higher level of efficiency in everything they attach themselves to. So, I feel a man can learn this ‘sense of commitment’ in whatever they do from a woman.”
Lesson No: 9: Devotion
Truly, hopelessly devoted — now, that’s a tough one for men!
Director Tanuja Chandra says, “Women have this innate ability to be generous when it comes to devoting themselves to their near ones. They are impeccable when it comes to investing emotionally to the other’s concerns. Unfortunately, men lack that.”
Lesson No: 10: Kill that ego
They’ll definitely find this one hard to digest. After all, they think they’re always right!
Actress Juhi Babbar says, “It’s high time they realised that they are dependent upon their wives and mothers. So, better kill that ego and love each other for whatever roles God has made us.”
They might call us overtly emotional, but that’s one thing that adds meaning to life. Ace director Kalpana Lajmi says, “Men lack that maternal perspective. They can’t see things the way a woman does, enriching every relationship with depth, a healing touch and compassion. If men learn that, then the relationship between men and women would be quite easy.”
Suchitra Pillai, actor, says, "One thing that men should learn from women is to be more in touch with their emotions. This would include being aware of mood swings the partner faces. It would make questions like ‘Are you upset?’ redundant. Women can teach men by not hiding their own emotions."
Rakhi Sawant, item girl, says, "Women have a lot of emotional strength. They can do a lot that men can’t even dream of. It’s wrongly believed that men are stronger than women. Whenever there is a crisis, it's men get depressed, lose their confidence and approach their lady for comfort.
Lesson No. 2: Think about the other’s pleasure as well
Now, this one goes for men who are obsessed with their own single-minded pursuit of happiness.
Alka Pandey, author, Kamasutra for Women says, “Treating the other as equal becomes all the more important when it comes to your chemistry in bed. Men must understand that a woman’s pleasure is as important as a man’s.”
Lesson No. 3: Endurance
Well, you’ll never tag us as constant cribbers once you learn this art, which we are quite good at.
Singer Shibani Kashyap says, “They might be physically stronger than us, but when it comes to emotional endurance, men still have a long way to go.”
Mehar Bhasin, says, “Men certainly need to learn the ability to be patient in any situation – be it workplace pressure, ego clashes, selfishness, pride, etc. Women take longer to react because they know that men are impulsive. She knows how to be patient in all walks of life. Be it a mother waiting for her child’s results, a wife waiting for her husband to apologise for harsh words, or a girlfriend waiting for a commitment – men need that inner patience to deal with trying situations.”
Lesson No. 4: Respect woman
Guys, you better remember to dish it out otherwise you know where your relationship is heading!
Actress Mahima Choudhary says, “They expect us to respect their clan, while they can’t even respect us. So, this is one lesson men should learn from women, particularly Indian men!”
Lesson No: 5: To multitask & balance
Now, this one’s a hit! Most women would love their men getting into the multitasking groove just like themselves.
Actress Shefali Shah says, “Men can focus on just one subject at a time and that’s so irritating at times. And to add to the irritation they either focus on cricket, work or buddies. So, I think they should learn the art of balancing it well.”
Gurdip Kohli, TV actor, says, "A sense of balance is the biggest quality that a man can pick up from a woman. A man must discover the experience of trying to juggle personal and professional lives. Since I'm married now, I can see how important it is to achieve a balance between your work and home. Unfortunately, men don’t really understand this, so they need to be more efficient at balancing priorities."
Lesson No: 6: Forgive
This otherwise not so emotional breed will suddenly become the worst emotional blackmailers the moment they catch you on the wrong foot. They would either not forgive you and if at all they do, they’ll make you feel guilty forever!
TV actress Tina Parekh says, “The day men learn to forgive and move on, there won’t be any fights between husbands and wives.”
Lesson No. 7: There’s more to sex than just being physical
Well, all the women who have been there and done that would agree that men get into the act for the act’s sake, while a woman gets into the act for sheer togetherness.
Sandhya Mulchandani, author, Indian Erotica says, “Women give their whole self to the experience, while men just consider it a physical thing. So, if men learn to get more generous when it comes to foreplay and let emotions seep in while having sex rather than getting anxious about performance, bedroom relations will be much better.”
Lesson No. 8: Sense of commitment
It won’t be wrong to say that men are almost allergic to commitment. Be it sticking to a job, a partner or for that matter anything, they need a great deal of perseverance to make up their mind.
Playback singer Alka Yagnik says, “Apparently, a man needs to learn everything from a woman – with commitment topping the list. Women exhibit a higher level of efficiency in everything they attach themselves to. So, I feel a man can learn this ‘sense of commitment’ in whatever they do from a woman.”
Lesson No: 9: Devotion
Truly, hopelessly devoted — now, that’s a tough one for men!
Director Tanuja Chandra says, “Women have this innate ability to be generous when it comes to devoting themselves to their near ones. They are impeccable when it comes to investing emotionally to the other’s concerns. Unfortunately, men lack that.”
Lesson No: 10: Kill that ego
They’ll definitely find this one hard to digest. After all, they think they’re always right!
Actress Juhi Babbar says, “It’s high time they realised that they are dependent upon their wives and mothers. So, better kill that ego and love each other for whatever roles God has made us.”
Never Expect Things to Happen
1) Never expect things to happen..
struggle and make them happen.never expect yourself to be given a good value create a value of your own
2) If a drop of water falls in lake there is no identity.But if it falls on a leaf of lotus it shine like a pearl.so choose the best place where you would shine..
3) Falling down is not defeat...defeat is when your refuse to get up...
4) Ship is always safe at shore... but is is not built for it
5) When your successful your well wishers know who you are when you are unsuccessful you know who your well wishers are
6) It is great confidence in a friend to tell him your faults; greater to tell him/her
7) "To the world you might be one person,
but to one person you just might be the world
"Even the word 'IMPOSSIBLE' says 'I M POSSIBLE' "
9) Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life makes all the difference.
Never take some one for granted, hold every person Close to your Heart because you might wake up one day and realise that you have lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones." Remember this always in life.
Life
Life isn't just full of happiness,
It's sunsets, it's love, it's tears.It's the thoughts of yesterdays memories,
That can wash away all out fears.
It's that very painful experience,
That each one of us has had.
It's the laughter that fills the air,
It's the tears when you are sad.
It's loving that someone special,
That at one time made you smile.
It's the pain of losing that person,
But the memories that make it worthwhile.
It's that child in every one of us,
Although in time we'll all be old.
It's the good times we'll never forget,
It's the memories we'll always hold.
It's the hug that we all need,
When we'd rather drown in our sorrow.
It's the hope in every one of us,
That makes us hold on for tomorrow
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