Psychologists investigated whether happy and unhappy people differed because of the types of conversations they engaged in.
Volunteers wore an unobtrusive recording device to monitor conversations with friends and colleagues for four days.
Researchers then listened to the recordings and identified them as trivial small talk or substantive discussions.
In addition, the volunteers completed personality and wellbeing assessments.
Reporting the findings in the journal Psychological Science, the researchers said the recordings revealed some startling findings.
Greater wellbeing was related to spending less time alone and more time talking to others. The happiest participants spent 25 per cent less time alone and 70 per cent more time talking than the unhappiest.
But the researchers were surprised to discover that the type of conversations people took part in also affected their happiness levels.
The happiest participants had twice as many deep and meaningful conversations and one third as much small talk as the unhappiest.
Matthias Mehl, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, said: "These findings suggest that the happy life is social and conversationally deep rather than solitary and superficial."
The researchers conclude that profound conversations may have the potential to make people happier.
They said: "Just as self-disclosure can instill a sense of intimacy in a relationship, deep conversations may instill a sense of meaning in interaction with partners."
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Human life is successful only when
Human life is successful only when:
1) nothing remains to be done, (krta-krtya)
2) nothing remains to be known and (gyaat-gyaatavya)
3) nothing remains to be attained. (praapt-praaptavya)
You can attain this state of supreme peace and bliss where nothing remains to be done, to be known and to be attained. Everyone can attain it, whether he is virtuous or sinful, learned or ignorant, worth or unworthy, rich or poor, whether he holds a degree or not. Even if you die today, you need not grieve as the aim of life would be attained.
If out of these three mentioned above, if any one condition is satisfied, the remaining two will be naturally satisfied.
When will nothing remain to be done?
Nothing will remain to be done when you you do nothing for yourself. If you do for yourself, the work can never be complete. It is because the action has a beginning and an end, whereas you remain the same. So something will remain to be done as long as you do for yourself. Something will remain to be done for endless births. It can never be completed. But nothing will remain to be done if you work only for others. In this way when you do nothing for yourself, nothing will remain to be done.
When will nothing remain to be known?
When you know the Self, nothing will remain to be known. But if you don't know yourself, then in spite of all the knowledge in the world of scriptures, philosolphy, languages, etc, something will remain to be known.
When will nothing remain to be attained?
When you attain God (Bhagwaan) thereafter nothing will remain to be attained. Nothing can be attained and acquired by the body, senses, mind, intellect and ego for the Self, as the Self is the illuminator of them all.
You can attain the state of supreme peace and bliss in which nothing
remains to be done, to be known and to be attained.
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
10 (More) Reasons You're Not Rich
Many people assume they aren't rich because they don't earn enough money. If I only earned a little more, I could save and invest better, they say.
The problem with that theory is they were probably making exactly the same argument before their last several raises. Becoming a millionaire has less to do with how much you make, it's how you treat money in your daily life.
The list of reasons you may not be rich doesn't end at 10. Caring what your neighbors think, not being patient, having bad habits, not having goals, not being prepared, trying to make a quick buck, relying on others to handle your money, investing in things you don't understand, being financially afraid and ignoring your finances.
Here are 10 more possible reasons you aren't rich:
You care what your car looks like: A car is a means of transportation to get from one place to another, but many people don't view it that way. Instead, they consider it a reflection of themselves and spend money every two years or so to impress others instead of driving the car for its entire useful life and investing the money saved.
You feel entitlement: If you believe you deserve to live a certain lifestyle, have certain things and spend a certain amount before you have earned to live that way, you will have to borrow money. That large chunk of debt will keep you from building wealth.
You lack diversification: There is a reason one of the oldest pieces of financial advice is to not keep all your eggs in a single basket. Having a diversified investment portfolio makes it much less likely that wealth will suddenly disappear.
You started too late: The magic of compound interest works best over long periods of time. If you find you're always saying there will be time to save and invest in a couple more years, you'll wake up one day to find retirement is just around the corner and there is still nothing in your retirement account.
You don't do what you enjoy: While your job doesn't necessarily need to be your dream job, you need to enjoy it. If you choose a job you don't like just for the money, you'll likely spend all that extra cash trying to relieve the stress of doing work you hate.
You don't like to learn: You may have assumed that once you graduated from college, there was no need to study or learn. That attitude might be enough to get you your first job or keep you employed, but it will never make you rich. A willingness to learn to improve your career and finances are essential if you want to eventually become wealthy.
You buy things you don't use: Take a look around your house, in the closets, basement, attic and garage and see if there are a lot of things you haven't used in the past year. If there are, chances are that all those things you purchased were wasted money that could have been used to increase your net worth.
You don't understand value: You buy things for any number of reasons besides the value that the purchase brings to you. This is not limited to those who feel the need to buy the most expensive items, but can also apply to those who always purchase the cheapest goods. Rarely are either the best value, and it's only when you learn to purchase good value that you have money left over to invest for your future.
Your house is too big: When you buy a house that is bigger than you can afford or need, you end up spending extra money on longer debt payments, increased taxes, higher upkeep and more things to fill it. Some people will try to argue that the increased value of the house makes it a good investment, but the truth is that unless you are willing to downgrade your living standards, which most people are not, it will never be a liquid asset or money that you can ever use and enjoy.
You fail to take advantage of opportunities: There has probably been more than one occasion where you heard about someone who has made it big and thought to yourself, "I could have thought of that." There are plenty of opportunities if you have the will and determination to keep your eyes open.
TIME GETS BETTER WITH AGE
I've learned that I like my teacher because she cries when we
sings "Silent Night".
Age 5
I've learned that our dog doesn't want to eat my broccoli
either.
Age 7
I've learned that when I wave to people in the country, they
stop what they are doing and wave back.
Age 9
I've learned that just when I get my room the way I like it,
Mom makes me clean it up again.
Age 12
I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should
try cheering someone else up.
Age 14
I've learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly
glad my parents are strict with me.
Age 15
I've learned that silent company is often more healing than
words of advice.
Age 24
I've learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's
great pleasures.
Age 26
I've learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers
have followed me there.
Age 29
I've learned that if someone says something unkind about me,
I must live so that no one will believe it.
Age 30
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but
just don't know how to show it.
Age 42
I've learned that you can make some one's day by simply
sending them a little note.
Age 44
I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the
greater his or her need to cast blame on others.
Age 46
I've learned that children and grandparents are natural allies.
Age 47
I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems
today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
Age 48
I've learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits
for hours.
Age 49
I've learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away
from the phone.
Age 50
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he
handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and
tangled Christmas tree lights.
Age 51
I've learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a
medicine cabinet full of pills.
Age 52
I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your
parents, you miss them terribly after they die.
Age 53
I've learned that making a living is not the same thing as
making a life.
Age 58
I've learned that if you want to do something positive for
your children, work to improve your marriage.
Age 61
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
Age 62
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catchers
mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.
Age 64
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you.
But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your
work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can,
happiness will find you.
Age 65
I've learned that whenever I decide something with kindness,
I usually make the right decision.
Age 66
I've learned that everyone can use a prayer.
Age 72
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be
one.
Age 82
I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch
someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm
hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
Age 90
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
Age 92
sings "Silent Night".
Age 5
I've learned that our dog doesn't want to eat my broccoli
either.
Age 7
I've learned that when I wave to people in the country, they
stop what they are doing and wave back.
Age 9
I've learned that just when I get my room the way I like it,
Mom makes me clean it up again.
Age 12
I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should
try cheering someone else up.
Age 14
I've learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly
glad my parents are strict with me.
Age 15
I've learned that silent company is often more healing than
words of advice.
Age 24
I've learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's
great pleasures.
Age 26
I've learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers
have followed me there.
Age 29
I've learned that if someone says something unkind about me,
I must live so that no one will believe it.
Age 30
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but
just don't know how to show it.
Age 42
I've learned that you can make some one's day by simply
sending them a little note.
Age 44
I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the
greater his or her need to cast blame on others.
Age 46
I've learned that children and grandparents are natural allies.
Age 47
I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems
today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
Age 48
I've learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits
for hours.
Age 49
I've learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away
from the phone.
Age 50
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he
handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and
tangled Christmas tree lights.
Age 51
I've learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a
medicine cabinet full of pills.
Age 52
I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your
parents, you miss them terribly after they die.
Age 53
I've learned that making a living is not the same thing as
making a life.
Age 58
I've learned that if you want to do something positive for
your children, work to improve your marriage.
Age 61
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
Age 62
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catchers
mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.
Age 64
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you.
But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your
work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can,
happiness will find you.
Age 65
I've learned that whenever I decide something with kindness,
I usually make the right decision.
Age 66
I've learned that everyone can use a prayer.
Age 72
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be
one.
Age 82
I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch
someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm
hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
Age 90
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
Age 92
Genius IQ in Law Of Reflection
Genius IQ today let you all know about Law of reflection. The Law Of Reflection states that whatever you do, think or feel will be reflected back to you. The reflection is of greater quantity, focus and power. It is a law which is not apparent to most people and so they continue to experience problems in their life, so it is necessary to clarify the principles of this law so that you can complement and respect it to further your goals.
1. You should always speak, act and do things in the way that you would ideally want the world and your life to be. For example, if someone were to speak ill of you, you should ignore it completely and speak highly of them. They will then, almost miraculously end up speaking highly of you too.
2. You should be mindful of the fact that everything you do, think or feel will have a physical effect. No matter how small it may be, the cumulative effect over a period of time can be quite large. For example, if i continued to collect 1 cents coins, i would eventually have a dollar and this same principle applies in this case too, in that small changes will eventually make a big difference.
3. We should valid lengthen to make steps to improve ourselves. This will mean the world will always persist to improve for us..
What To Expect From The Law Of Reflection
A. People will become a reflection of what we want them to be, from the way we speak to them. They will speak highly of us, if we do that to them.
B. Increased clarity and focus in our lives if we give ourselves focus. When we know that what we do will be reflected back on us with greater power, we will continue to remain focused to help ourselves.
C. Increased insight into lifes situations. It no longer becomes a mystery why the same situation continues to crop up time and again. We are creating it from what we are giving out.
1. You should always speak, act and do things in the way that you would ideally want the world and your life to be. For example, if someone were to speak ill of you, you should ignore it completely and speak highly of them. They will then, almost miraculously end up speaking highly of you too.
2. You should be mindful of the fact that everything you do, think or feel will have a physical effect. No matter how small it may be, the cumulative effect over a period of time can be quite large. For example, if i continued to collect 1 cents coins, i would eventually have a dollar and this same principle applies in this case too, in that small changes will eventually make a big difference.
3. We should valid lengthen to make steps to improve ourselves. This will mean the world will always persist to improve for us..
What To Expect From The Law Of Reflection
A. People will become a reflection of what we want them to be, from the way we speak to them. They will speak highly of us, if we do that to them.
B. Increased clarity and focus in our lives if we give ourselves focus. When we know that what we do will be reflected back on us with greater power, we will continue to remain focused to help ourselves.
C. Increased insight into lifes situations. It no longer becomes a mystery why the same situation continues to crop up time and again. We are creating it from what we are giving out.
Whom to blame ???
Boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage.
They were a Loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes.
When the boy was Around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle Open.
He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep It in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot The matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by Its colour and drank it all.
It happened to be a poisonous medicine Meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother Hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She Was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child ,
He looked at his wife and uttered just five words.
QUESTIONS:
1. What were the five words?
2. What is the implication of this story?
ANSWER :
The husband just said "I am with you Darling"
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive Behaviour.
The Child is dead. He can never be brought back to life.
There is no point In finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to Keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.
No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she Needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would Be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles Begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, Unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are Actually not as difficult as you think.
MORAL OF THE STORY
Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, Whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this Way we miss out some warmth in human relationship.
They were a Loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes.
When the boy was Around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle Open.
He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep It in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot The matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by Its colour and drank it all.
It happened to be a poisonous medicine Meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother Hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She Was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child ,
He looked at his wife and uttered just five words.
QUESTIONS:
1. What were the five words?
2. What is the implication of this story?
ANSWER :
The husband just said "I am with you Darling"
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive Behaviour.
The Child is dead. He can never be brought back to life.
There is no point In finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to Keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.
No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she Needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would Be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles Begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, Unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are Actually not as difficult as you think.
MORAL OF THE STORY
Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, Whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this Way we miss out some warmth in human relationship.
Simple Tips on How to Motivate Yourself
Figuring out how to motivate yourself can be hard. There is always that little voice that says, ?you can?t do it? no matter if you are trying to find the motivation to lose weight, save money, spend more time with the kids, or any other goal. Everyone deals with this little voice; you are not alone. The key is to learn how to motivate yourself in the most effective ways. Here are some tips to help you figure out just what is the best way to motivate yourself.
Shut Out the Voice
One important way how to motivate yourself and to stay that way is to start shutting out that negative little voice in the back of your head. You can do this by simply combating it with positive voices. For example, if you are trying to lose weight and the voice is saying stuff like, ?You?ll never be able to resist the cake at the birthday party,? combat it by telling yourself: ?Even if I do eat a piece of cake that doesn?t mean I have to give up. I?ve done really well so far and I?m going to keep at it!?
Bribe Yourself
Sometimes you have to feed the child inside of you to stay motivated. Just like when motivating a child to do something by promising a treat, you can do the same to reach your own goals. This is How to Motivate Yourself 101. For example, if you did bypass the cake at the birthday party you could reward yourself by indulging in a new pair of shoes. This is called positive reinforcement, and it really does work. If you do challenge yourself and then get positive results when you complete the task then you will keep challenging yourself.
Here?s how it works. The next time you find your motivation for a task or goal failing, tell yourself that you will get a reward after it is done. This reward can be as simple as taking your dog for a walk in the park, or something as lavish as a trip to the day spa to get a massage. Whatever the treat, make sure that it is one that gives you that extra boost to finish the task.
Get Others to Help
One of the biggest motivators of all is pride. If you tell others about your goal then you are bound by your pride to finish it. So, next time you have an important task to complete tell everyone. The every need not to fall on your face in front of others is the perfect way how to motivate yourself.
Shut Out the Voice
One important way how to motivate yourself and to stay that way is to start shutting out that negative little voice in the back of your head. You can do this by simply combating it with positive voices. For example, if you are trying to lose weight and the voice is saying stuff like, ?You?ll never be able to resist the cake at the birthday party,? combat it by telling yourself: ?Even if I do eat a piece of cake that doesn?t mean I have to give up. I?ve done really well so far and I?m going to keep at it!?
Bribe Yourself
Sometimes you have to feed the child inside of you to stay motivated. Just like when motivating a child to do something by promising a treat, you can do the same to reach your own goals. This is How to Motivate Yourself 101. For example, if you did bypass the cake at the birthday party you could reward yourself by indulging in a new pair of shoes. This is called positive reinforcement, and it really does work. If you do challenge yourself and then get positive results when you complete the task then you will keep challenging yourself.
Here?s how it works. The next time you find your motivation for a task or goal failing, tell yourself that you will get a reward after it is done. This reward can be as simple as taking your dog for a walk in the park, or something as lavish as a trip to the day spa to get a massage. Whatever the treat, make sure that it is one that gives you that extra boost to finish the task.
Get Others to Help
One of the biggest motivators of all is pride. If you tell others about your goal then you are bound by your pride to finish it. So, next time you have an important task to complete tell everyone. The every need not to fall on your face in front of others is the perfect way how to motivate yourself.
Instant Success
People say there is no such thing as instant success, but I say that there is. Success is a way of thinking. Success has to do with how you feel. You may have a lot of money, but if your thoughts and emotions have you in a terrible state, then you really aren?t successful. Why do people achieve goals? Why do entrepreneurs start businesses? They do it because they believe it will make them feel a certain way. They will feel accomplished, victorious, joyful, or free.
Success is in the mind. People tell themselves that they will feel successful when they get the money, obtain the right job, find their perfect mate, or lose the weight. Success is a someday thing in this context. Someday never comes.
Success is a gift you give to yourself. It is a way of thinking. Success thinking creates the emotions of success including joy, peace, personal pride, self respect, freedom, and gratitude.
If you do not see or feel yourself as successful right now, you are but a thought away from it. Success is one thought away from where you are right now. The distance between your current thoughts and success thoughts may seem overwhelming. This is due to your physiology. You see, constant repetition of negative thoughts (blaming, complaining, victimized, anger, etc.) trains your body to react in certain ways. Physiologically, you are wired to feel the way that you do. Constant practice of negativity and doubt build those emotions into your body. Your physiological responses can be changed.
Since we are often battling physiology when we attempt to make changes, it is the body we must employ as our change agent.
Here are some steps you can use to create success:
1. First, there must be an intention to succeed. Failure and giving up have payoffs we must be willing to give up. We must be willing to take responsibility for our own lives. When we intend to create success we recognize that our success, past, present, or future, is not up to anyone else. No one can stop you from being successful.
2. Following up on your intention, there must be a decision you make to succeed. You make this decision every day. Every time you experience disappointment or setbacks, you decide again to succeed.
3. You must envision success. It is important to write out a vision that includes what your life would look like. More importantly, you need a vision that articulates what kind of person you want to be. Words like confident, loving, compassionate, forgiving, helpful, competent, joyful, tenacious, graceful, grateful and others come to mind. In this vision of your success, who are you being?
4. Focus on the feelings that you believe are part of being successful. If you were successful right now?if you felt totally successful right now?how would you be sitting in your chair? What would your posture be like? How would you carry yourself? Get up out of your seat and walk across the room. How would you walk? Go greet someone or talk to someone on the telephone. How would you greet and talk to someone if you were successful?
5. Consciously bring the feelings and thoughts of success into every part of your body in each of the parts of your life. In other words, you are not looking for success?you are being success.
Some may say that that?s nice, but it is play acting. It is like living in a dream world. This is true. You are acting and it is living in your dream world. Success comes from the inside out. In order to create your successful world you must first live in it in your mind.
So, if you want a promotion, how would you walk and talk if you were already in that position? How would you deal with people? How would you approach your work? If you were a great leader with big responsibility and compensation to match, would you be tracking how many hours you work each week? Would you be gossiping about your coworker? Or, would you be fully engaged in the moment, making decisions that benefit the highest good for the organization? Would you be complaining about how unfair certain people or situations are, or would you be envisioning positive situations and taking constructive steps to create them?
Someone said to me: ?I can play at being successful but I?m really not. I still don?t have the money I need. I still don?t have the influence I need. I don?t have time for games like these.? This reaction is common and understandable. My first question is: ?How much money, influence and love have you gained by worry or by feeling sorry for yourself?? Generally speaking, other people are not going to help you be successful because they feel sorry for you. People gravitate toward success. Whether you want others to buy from you, vote for you, listen to you, or join with you, they are going to be more interested if you are successful. If you see yourself and feel yourself as successful, others will agree with you. Motivational writers and speakers call it: ?Fake it until you make it.?
Personally I don?t think we are faking it at all. That confident and joyful person we envision is who we really are. As we set aside the negative thoughts and emotions of blaming, complaining, resentment, and general unforgiveness we expose who we really are. You are already a success. If you can imagine it and feel it, you can be it.
Give yourself the gift of instant success right now. Sit, stand or somehow begin moving as if you are already successful. Practice will build the positive emotions of success into your physiology. Your body will become wired for success. It will truly be the servant of a success oriented mind. As you move forward in confidence your outer conditions will begin to change to reflect your inner success.
By William Frank Diedrich
Success is in the mind. People tell themselves that they will feel successful when they get the money, obtain the right job, find their perfect mate, or lose the weight. Success is a someday thing in this context. Someday never comes.
Success is a gift you give to yourself. It is a way of thinking. Success thinking creates the emotions of success including joy, peace, personal pride, self respect, freedom, and gratitude.
If you do not see or feel yourself as successful right now, you are but a thought away from it. Success is one thought away from where you are right now. The distance between your current thoughts and success thoughts may seem overwhelming. This is due to your physiology. You see, constant repetition of negative thoughts (blaming, complaining, victimized, anger, etc.) trains your body to react in certain ways. Physiologically, you are wired to feel the way that you do. Constant practice of negativity and doubt build those emotions into your body. Your physiological responses can be changed.
Since we are often battling physiology when we attempt to make changes, it is the body we must employ as our change agent.
Here are some steps you can use to create success:
1. First, there must be an intention to succeed. Failure and giving up have payoffs we must be willing to give up. We must be willing to take responsibility for our own lives. When we intend to create success we recognize that our success, past, present, or future, is not up to anyone else. No one can stop you from being successful.
2. Following up on your intention, there must be a decision you make to succeed. You make this decision every day. Every time you experience disappointment or setbacks, you decide again to succeed.
3. You must envision success. It is important to write out a vision that includes what your life would look like. More importantly, you need a vision that articulates what kind of person you want to be. Words like confident, loving, compassionate, forgiving, helpful, competent, joyful, tenacious, graceful, grateful and others come to mind. In this vision of your success, who are you being?
4. Focus on the feelings that you believe are part of being successful. If you were successful right now?if you felt totally successful right now?how would you be sitting in your chair? What would your posture be like? How would you carry yourself? Get up out of your seat and walk across the room. How would you walk? Go greet someone or talk to someone on the telephone. How would you greet and talk to someone if you were successful?
5. Consciously bring the feelings and thoughts of success into every part of your body in each of the parts of your life. In other words, you are not looking for success?you are being success.
Some may say that that?s nice, but it is play acting. It is like living in a dream world. This is true. You are acting and it is living in your dream world. Success comes from the inside out. In order to create your successful world you must first live in it in your mind.
So, if you want a promotion, how would you walk and talk if you were already in that position? How would you deal with people? How would you approach your work? If you were a great leader with big responsibility and compensation to match, would you be tracking how many hours you work each week? Would you be gossiping about your coworker? Or, would you be fully engaged in the moment, making decisions that benefit the highest good for the organization? Would you be complaining about how unfair certain people or situations are, or would you be envisioning positive situations and taking constructive steps to create them?
Someone said to me: ?I can play at being successful but I?m really not. I still don?t have the money I need. I still don?t have the influence I need. I don?t have time for games like these.? This reaction is common and understandable. My first question is: ?How much money, influence and love have you gained by worry or by feeling sorry for yourself?? Generally speaking, other people are not going to help you be successful because they feel sorry for you. People gravitate toward success. Whether you want others to buy from you, vote for you, listen to you, or join with you, they are going to be more interested if you are successful. If you see yourself and feel yourself as successful, others will agree with you. Motivational writers and speakers call it: ?Fake it until you make it.?
Personally I don?t think we are faking it at all. That confident and joyful person we envision is who we really are. As we set aside the negative thoughts and emotions of blaming, complaining, resentment, and general unforgiveness we expose who we really are. You are already a success. If you can imagine it and feel it, you can be it.
Give yourself the gift of instant success right now. Sit, stand or somehow begin moving as if you are already successful. Practice will build the positive emotions of success into your physiology. Your body will become wired for success. It will truly be the servant of a success oriented mind. As you move forward in confidence your outer conditions will begin to change to reflect your inner success.
By William Frank Diedrich
21 Things To Remember
* No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission.
* Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be
* Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.
* Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.
* Success stops when you do.
* When your ship comes in.... make sure you are willing to unload it.
* You will never have it all together.
* Life is a journey...not a destination. Enjoy the trip!
* The biggest lie on the planet When I get what I want I will be happy.
* The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.
* I've learned that ultimately , 'takers' lose and 'givers' win.
* Life's precious moments don't have value, unless they are shared.
* If you don't start, it's certain you won't arrive.
* We often fear the thing we want the most.
* He or she who laughs......lasts.
* Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints.
* Look for opportunities..not guarantees.
* Life is what's coming....not what was.
* Success is getting up one more time.
* Now is the most interesting time of all.
* When things go wrong.....don't go with them.
Ten Keys for Finding Happiness
Use these Ten Keys for Finding Happiness in Your Life
1. Live on purpose. Joyful aliveness connects you with your purpose. Learn the skills you need to create happiness. Discover the activities and pursuits that make your heart sing! These engaging activities provide clues to your purpose and will assist you in finding happiness.
If you want to maintain desperation and unhappiness, then believe that life has no purpose.
2. Find Happiness right now. No other time exists for experiencing happiness. Only the present moment contains the spark of life!
You may also create misery by constantly wanting to speed ahead to some other time. Most people live their lives wanting to exist elsewhere and elsewhen.
3. Accept total responsibility for your life! You create your reality and your emotions. Your power and focus exceed your wildest dreams. See this short video about finding happiness through creating reality.
You can choose to blame and whine, pretending that your life situation came from without, rather than from within. As within, so without. Accept total responsibility for all.
4. Act in boldness. Take on challenges and pursue lofty goals. Overcoming difficulties and obstacles provide some of the most exquisite joys in life.
To create misery, play it totally safe. Never do anything scary or risky. Follow your fears and let them guide your actions. For happiness and joy - feel the fear, and do it anyway!
5. Expect happiness. Hope consists of a perfect expectation of desirable things to come. Picture desirable things to come. You choose what to think about, and what to visualize in your mind's eye! Imagine yourself finding happiness.
Despair consists of a perfect expectation of undesirable things to come. To increase despair, simply imagine in detail terrible things that may happen to you. The better your imagination, the deeper the despair. You get what you truly expect, so expect happiness.
6. Increase your awareness. Feel your emotions consciously. Identify your core beliefs. Constantly learn and grow from the inside. Your unhealthy attitudes, habits, and behaviors will start to drop away like fall leaves. Watch this quick video on identifying emotions.
To maintain apathy and misery, just remain unaware. Allow clarity to flee from you like a deer from a hunter. Remain in unconsciousness and cloudiness - afraid to explore your beliefs.
7. Build your connections. Our relationships give life meaning and happiness. All of us truly connect to one another in the inner world. Building connections in the physical world builds on this inner reality and helps us in finding happiness.
To create misery, simply separate yourself from others. Think that you exist as an independent entity, and other people merely drag you down. Insist on separateness and division. Deny the truth of connectedness and pursue unreality.
8. Learn and read daily. We grow in large measure due to the people we meet and the books we read. Did you read 52 books last year? Did you foster more friendships? We create happiness when we grow and increase our wisdom.
To prevent happiness, try not to meet any new people this year, and don't read any new books either. Simply stay just the same person with the exact same ideas. For optimal joy, go for optimal growth and learning!
9. Serve other people. Truly recognize other people as real people, with needs and wants just like your own. Think how you can bring a smile to someone, and then do it! Give increased life in every encounter. Service is a huge key for finding happiness in your life.
To create misery, ignore other people and totally concern yourself with your own needs. Don't think of other people as real.
10. Prioritize your actions. Know your goals and purposes, and put power and faith into every action. Do each action with focus and purpose, and know why you choose the activities you expend your energy on.
If you want to decrease joy, simply do as many things as you can each day. Never think of which tasks connect with your goals, simply busy yourself with work.
Enjoy the Ten Keys to Finding Happiness!
1. Live on purpose. Joyful aliveness connects you with your purpose. Learn the skills you need to create happiness. Discover the activities and pursuits that make your heart sing! These engaging activities provide clues to your purpose and will assist you in finding happiness.
If you want to maintain desperation and unhappiness, then believe that life has no purpose.
2. Find Happiness right now. No other time exists for experiencing happiness. Only the present moment contains the spark of life!
You may also create misery by constantly wanting to speed ahead to some other time. Most people live their lives wanting to exist elsewhere and elsewhen.
3. Accept total responsibility for your life! You create your reality and your emotions. Your power and focus exceed your wildest dreams. See this short video about finding happiness through creating reality.
You can choose to blame and whine, pretending that your life situation came from without, rather than from within. As within, so without. Accept total responsibility for all.
4. Act in boldness. Take on challenges and pursue lofty goals. Overcoming difficulties and obstacles provide some of the most exquisite joys in life.
To create misery, play it totally safe. Never do anything scary or risky. Follow your fears and let them guide your actions. For happiness and joy - feel the fear, and do it anyway!
5. Expect happiness. Hope consists of a perfect expectation of desirable things to come. Picture desirable things to come. You choose what to think about, and what to visualize in your mind's eye! Imagine yourself finding happiness.
Despair consists of a perfect expectation of undesirable things to come. To increase despair, simply imagine in detail terrible things that may happen to you. The better your imagination, the deeper the despair. You get what you truly expect, so expect happiness.
6. Increase your awareness. Feel your emotions consciously. Identify your core beliefs. Constantly learn and grow from the inside. Your unhealthy attitudes, habits, and behaviors will start to drop away like fall leaves. Watch this quick video on identifying emotions.
To maintain apathy and misery, just remain unaware. Allow clarity to flee from you like a deer from a hunter. Remain in unconsciousness and cloudiness - afraid to explore your beliefs.
7. Build your connections. Our relationships give life meaning and happiness. All of us truly connect to one another in the inner world. Building connections in the physical world builds on this inner reality and helps us in finding happiness.
To create misery, simply separate yourself from others. Think that you exist as an independent entity, and other people merely drag you down. Insist on separateness and division. Deny the truth of connectedness and pursue unreality.
8. Learn and read daily. We grow in large measure due to the people we meet and the books we read. Did you read 52 books last year? Did you foster more friendships? We create happiness when we grow and increase our wisdom.
To prevent happiness, try not to meet any new people this year, and don't read any new books either. Simply stay just the same person with the exact same ideas. For optimal joy, go for optimal growth and learning!
9. Serve other people. Truly recognize other people as real people, with needs and wants just like your own. Think how you can bring a smile to someone, and then do it! Give increased life in every encounter. Service is a huge key for finding happiness in your life.
To create misery, ignore other people and totally concern yourself with your own needs. Don't think of other people as real.
10. Prioritize your actions. Know your goals and purposes, and put power and faith into every action. Do each action with focus and purpose, and know why you choose the activities you expend your energy on.
If you want to decrease joy, simply do as many things as you can each day. Never think of which tasks connect with your goals, simply busy yourself with work.
Enjoy the Ten Keys to Finding Happiness!
Monday, September 28, 2009
Start for yourself
Start for yourself
Face your greatest fears
And take the new step of faith
Because only who can see the invisible
Can do the impossible.
God opens a door before your eyes
It's up to you to find out
Help yourself and explore the things outside.
If only you could see the genuine smile
Through the eyes of an innocent child
That gives you different insight
Sometimes it's better to be like a child
They take the challenge of life
No matter what comes out
You will see them playing around.
If you want to cope-up with your grief,
You must help and start for yourself
Minimize your self-centeredness,
Maximize your faith and strength for living
Because, God, you are still alive!
There are more things to explore outside.
Even the air you breathed, the voice you've heard,
The things you've seen,
Are enough to analyze,
You are still fortunate to be alive!
You are blessed to take another day
To feel the sun's ray
Hey, didn't you know that you are nature's greatest miracle?
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Never Expect Things to Happen
1) Never expect things to happen..
struggle and make them happen.never expect yourself to be given a good value create a value of your own
2) If a drop of water falls in lake there is no identity.But if it falls on a leaf of lotus it shine like a pearl.so choose the best place where you would shine..
3) Falling down is not defeat...defeat is when your refuse to get up...
4) Ship is always safe at shore... but is is not built for it
5) When your successful your well wishers know who you are when you are unsuccessful you know who your well wishers are
6) It is great confidence in a friend to tell him your faults; greater to tell him/her
7) "To the world you might be one person,
but to one person you just might be the world
"Even the word 'IMPOSSIBLE' says 'I M POSSIBLE' "
9) Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life makes all the difference.
Never take some one for granted, hold every person Close to your Heart because you might wake up one day and realise that you have lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones." Remember this always in life.
Words of Wisdom
If you plant honesty, You will reap trust
If you plant goodness, You will reap friends If you plant humility, You will reap greatness
If you plant perseverance, You will reap victory
If you plant consideration, You will reap harmony
If you plant hard work, You will reap success
If you plant forgiveness, You will reap reconciliation
If you plant openness, You will reap intimacy
If you plant patience, You will reap improvements
If you plant faith, You will reap miracles
But
If you plant dishonesty, You will reap distrust.
If you plant selfishness, You will reap loneliness
If you plant pride, You will reap destruction
If you plant envy, You will reap trouble
If you plant laziness, You will reap stagnation.
If you plant bitterness, You will reap isolation
If you plant greed, You will reap loss
If you plant gossip, You will reap enemies
If you plant worries, You will reap wrinkles
If you plant sin, You will reap guilt
If you plant goodness, You will reap friends If you plant humility, You will reap greatness
If you plant perseverance, You will reap victory
If you plant consideration, You will reap harmony
If you plant hard work, You will reap success
If you plant forgiveness, You will reap reconciliation
If you plant openness, You will reap intimacy
If you plant patience, You will reap improvements
If you plant faith, You will reap miracles
But
If you plant dishonesty, You will reap distrust.
If you plant selfishness, You will reap loneliness
If you plant pride, You will reap destruction
If you plant envy, You will reap trouble
If you plant laziness, You will reap stagnation.
If you plant bitterness, You will reap isolation
If you plant greed, You will reap loss
If you plant gossip, You will reap enemies
If you plant worries, You will reap wrinkles
If you plant sin, You will reap guilt
Life
Life isn't just full of happiness,
It's sunsets, it's love, it's tears.It's the thoughts of yesterdays memories,
That can wash away all out fears.
It's that very painful experience,
That each one of us has had.
It's the laughter that fills the air,
It's the tears when you are sad.
It's loving that someone special,
That at one time made you smile.
It's the pain of losing that person,
But the memories that make it worthwhile.
It's that child in every one of us,
Although in time we'll all be old.
It's the good times we'll never forget,
It's the memories we'll always hold.
It's the hug that we all need,
When we'd rather drown in our sorrow.
It's the hope in every one of us,
That makes us hold on for tomorrow
Each day it opens a new account for you.
Imagine...
There is a bank that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out ALL OF IT, of course!!!
Each of us has such a bank. Its name is TIME.
Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft.
Each day it opens a new account for you.
Each night it burns the remains of the day.
If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours.
There is no going back. There is no drawing against the "tomorrow."
So live in the present on today's deposits. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success! The clock is running. Make the most of today.
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