1- Make her feel secure- don’t joke about divorcing her, this will put a hole in your marriage.
2- Always greet her whenever you arrive
3- Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her- In this vessel there is a lot of goodness so treat her in a gentle manner.
4- Advice her in privacy and the best timing. Don’t advice her in the presence of others, it can be a type of humility
5- Be generous with her
6- Move out of your way for her, when she’s coming to sit get up and let her sit on your seat tell her: ‘here honey sit I warmed up the seat for you’
7- Avoid anger.
8- Look good for her and smell great.
9- Don’t be rigid, you will be broken- just because you are a man doesn’t mean you have to be harsh hearted
10- Be a good listener
11- Say yes for flattering and no for arguing.
12- Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear.
13- Surprise her secretly. Ex: Bring her a watermelon when it’s not the season of watermelons. Pick and choose in surprising her, be an artist in surprising her pleasantly
14- Preserve the tongue
15- Accept her shortcomings/ everyone has one
16- Show your appreciation to her
17- Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relations
18- Speak topics of her interest.
19- Speak of her goodness in the presence of others
20- Shower her with gifts. give gifts and you’ll love each other’ MML It’s doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the gift is, it’s the thought that counts!
21- Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Ex: Buy her ticket to a vacation cruise or something that she will enjoy.
22- Think good of her-
23- Ignore some of the words/actions you don’t like
24- Add a drop of patience- It can go a long way- i.e: at her time of pregnancy, menses…etc
25- Expect and respect her jealousy.
26- Be humble
27- Don’t put a price on her happiness.
28- Help her around household chores
29- You can’t force her to love her in laws, but help her respect and love your parents.
30- Show her that she is an ideal wife; each and every wife is an ideal wife in many ways, so make her feel that.
31- Make dua’a for her and always remember her in your dua’as
32- Leave her past
33- Don’t show her that you are doing favors by doing your duties
34- ****aan/Satan is your enemy NOT your wife!
35- When eating, don’t only feed yourself, feed her TOO! - Not only does it go to the stomach but to the heart too.
36- Look at her as a precious pearl, treat her and take care of her like a precious pearl
37- Speaking of pearlsà show her YOUR pearlsà SMILE! . Don’t put your smile out-of-service when you reach home! Don’t be rigid.
38- Don’t hold grudges. Deal with the littlest matters and don’t ignore them, it will build up and will create a wall between you and your wife.
39- Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40- Respect her thinking; her thinking strengthens you.
41- Help her discover/develop her skills and her success within
42- Respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship- it’s a fragile matter.
43- Help her with the children; it’s not only her job it’s yours too!
44- Complement her!-give her the gifts of the tongues-
45- Don’t be a stranger to her meals, know your wife’s meals, and eat her food.
46- Let her know when you are traveling don’t just disappear, and also let her know about your arrival.
47- When arguments arise, deal with it and don’t run away from it.
48- Don’t share your home secrets with your friends. Keep your privacy, and don’t make it a garage sale.
49- Encourage each other to worship together, listen to a lecture/recitation.-
50- Engrave her rights in your heart and in your conscious
51- Treat her with kindness through happiness and sorrow
52- Don’t jump on your wife like a ball!, in fact polish your love with many kisses- A kiss is a messenger-
53- When disputes happen between you and your wife, don’t go and share it with the whole world.-don’t leave your wounds open for the germs-
54- Show her that you care for her health.
55- Don’t think that you are right all the time!-No one Is perfect but the prophet (saw)-
56- Share you happiness and sorrow with her.
57- Have mercy on her.
58- Be the shoulder she can lean on!
59- Accept her as is, she’s a bent rib so don’t try to straighten it.
*Side note: A dear friend once said: “a bent rib cannot be straightened, and in fact the beauty of it lies within its curve!”
60- Have good intentions for your wife -