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Monday, September 14, 2009

33 secrets to a great relationship

Here are some tips to remind couples how they can improve or maintain healthy relationships with their loved ones. Whether you are married, engaged or attached, these relationship tips are golden. They may sound simple and you may even know these stuff at the back of your head. But do you put them in practise to improve your relationship or even to bring it to a better level? Maybe not. So if you already know these, here’s a reminder that they work.

Here are the 33 secrets to how you can improve your relationship with your beloved.

(Note: These relationship tips are not my own content, I borrowed it when I read how useful they are!)

1. ANNIVERSARIES
Always celebrate! Whether it’s the 1st or the 50th, each year together is a triumph.

2. APPRECIATION
Let each other know how much you appreciate each other. You may already know but hearing it from each other is always better.

3. BEST FRIENDS
Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend. Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one. Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems. The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough times.

4. BOND
Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other. Also spend time alone without each other, so that at the end of the day you could both share your experiences. This way, you stay interesting with your partner.

5. COMPLIMENTS
Always compliment each other. This will prevent feelings of resentment and thinking that one is being taken for granted.

6. DATE
Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together. Make time and continue to date to keep the romance – look good, smell good to maintain physical attraction.

7. DIFFERENCES
Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other’s throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate them.


8. FIGHTS
Fight with the aim to resolve the issue. Don’t outdo each other. The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you’ll say something hurtful that you don’t really mean. As mad as you were with your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes and thinks you’re hot. Hear each other out, don’t dig up old issues. Choose your battles. Make sure the fight will be worth it and that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.

9.FLAWS
Know that the perfect person does not exist. Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.

10. FUN
Have fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that was there in the early days. Allow yourselves to get silly. Being able to make each other laugh and see the lighter, crazier, absurd side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle and opposing viewpoints.

11. GOALS
Make sure you have similar goals. It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.

12. GRUDGES
Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don’t recycle it.

13. KEEPING IT HOT
Keep it hot by traveling to different places together. A new setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact – be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.

14. HONESTY
Don’t lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.

15. KNOW EACH OTHER
Learn each other’s interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!

16. HUG
A hug can be far better and more intimate than a kiss.

17. IDENTITY
Don’t lose your personality – that’s why he/she fell in love with you. Have separate interest and activities to keep your individuality, and to be able to contribute more to the relationship.

18. INDEPENDENCE
Having your own income means you’re the boss in your life.

19. IN-LAWS
Make rooms for the in-laws.

20.INTENTIONS
Wish each other well. Don’t wish each other worst.

21. ISSUES
Speak up about the awkward stuff now, like money and sex. The earlier, the better.

22. LISTEN
Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.

23. LOOK GOOD
Mind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other.

24. LOVE
It all boils down to your love, chemistry and respect for each other.

25. MEMORIES
Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before. It may even be corny but it made you two together. Experience new things together – from dining at a new restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It’s the little surprises that make great memories.

26. MIND READING
No matter how long you’ve been together, do not think that you can read each other’s mind.

27. NEEDS
Be good to yourself, then be good to your partner. That’s what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy? Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other’s feelings. Be very attentive and sensitive to each other’s needs, physically and emotionally. That way your partner learns to do the same for you. Never take your partner for granted.

28. PRIORITIES
If one says it’s important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!

29. SORRY
Say sorry when you’re wrong.

30. SURPRISES
No matter how long you’ve known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.

31. TEAMWORK
Think for two and always work as a team. Consult each other before making a decision because everything will always affect both of you. Strengthen couple power. In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the relationship in favor of our individual selves.

32. SUPPORT
Support each other’s dream. Be willing to follow your passions, support your partner in his/her decisions and create new ones together. Two heads are better than one.

33. TALK
Tell each other’s stories. Life goes by so fast and its easy to see how easily couples can grow apart. Whenever something funny, scary, exciting or juicy happened to you or to someone you know, tell each other about it and have your partner do the same. Keep each other in the loop of life.

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